Are You Sure You Know What You Want ?

DAVIDE DONGHI
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“A lot of times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them.” –Steve Jobs

If we can’t trust our thinking what do we trust?

This question may be the wrong approach. It is not as simple as not trusting our thinking all of the time.

As humans we’re fickle and easily swayed. In other words we do not know exactly what we want.

So, when it happens that we look inside ourselves for an answer, the truth is: that answer will never be there.

We often see ourself make a choice, and then when we try to find the meaning, we just try to make as much sense of it as possible when we make an explanation. Unfortunately we do this so quickly and easily that we think we really know the answer.

We do most anything to rationalize our feelings, our thoughts, our actions even especially when it comes to figuring out what we want.

“Instead, a right approach to develop our self-awareness is about creating doubt, accept the uncertainty and realizing our thoughts are not as important as we believe.”

To be honest, when I was young I didn’t know what I wanted. I only knew what direction I wanted to follow. I knew I wanted to make a contribution and do work that I enjoyed.

So it’s not important to know exactly what we want to do with our life.

The only thing we need is a vision of where we’d like to go, a direction to go in.

All of these things can improve our relationships, our choices, and our sense of well-being.

Infact simply realizing that in a given moment that thoughts aren’t trustworthy, or at that moment are unnecessary, it can bring about peace of mind, calmness, serenity.

The more it is done, the more peace in ours life we have.

This isn’t easy.

But with the realization that much thought is nonsense, inaccurate, and biased, we can give it less merit, and push them out of the way more frequently.

The payoff? Living a healthier, happier life.

DAVIDE DONGHI

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Writer, Author, Psychologist, Career Coach

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