Joy and Pain

Whenever you envoke the term “Commitment,” you are saying that what you want and what you don’t want are just your feelings and have nothing to do with any action you will take. Within the word “Commitment” comes all that is possible. I have said before here at Medium, that opposites are what make you understand the entire spectrum of what there is and when you make a choice:

“The Deed does not care who the Doer is.” From Tom Hopkins when I was 19.

“Delaying gratification means: doing the things you don’t want first, then the rest of your day is filled with the things you do want.” From F. Scott Peck in “The Road Less Traveled.” Boy, have I been on that road for over 55 years!

I am now at the age when I can finally bring the “Masters” who have helped me and again: I keep wishing that there would be a live human like Anthony Robbins that comes into my home and works me over so that I can kill lots more brain cells. But, alas, this will not come to pass. I am rhymin Simon.

Since it is 7:30 AM and I have been going since 6:30 AM, I am more sharp now than I will be later. So, what Mr. Peck said was true. If I were to get the things done now, before “Typical” work time which is Monday through Friday 9 AM to 5 PM when the rest are working and I will get calls and people wanting my time that may prevent me from doing the things I do not want to do. This takes that off my plate. When 9 AM rolls around, I am now on the stuff I do want to do.

I almost hate to admit this, but since I am being honest, I am going to let you in on a secret. If you have read this up to here: you most certainly deserve one.

I do my wash about 3 times a year. I have enough clothes to last over 1 year and none of it is expensive. I also have a shoe collection that has been brought down to about 200 pair of sneaks, shoes and boots that all were cheap. I bought them all except for underwear that I throw away after 1 year of washing, when I do my wash in the 3 times I do it: it is a 3 to 4 day event. I am doing 1 large load at a time. The total could be 15 to 20 loads of wash. I am on the 2nd floor and have to go 3 flights to the basement where the washer and dryer are. I use a large outdoor type trash bag filled up, dump it and then continue on, moving the clean and dryer clothes into a clean bag, bring 1 load up, but before I do that, the next load is put into the washer. I pull all whites out for a heavy working over with bleach at the very end, but when I am finished, all of my wash is clean.

1 problem I have and is bad here in Philly are mice that during anytime of the year, go to wherever you do not move any “Molecules.” To me, it is most important to move everything except my King Size Waterbed with Baffles. Then I see some mice droppings. I vacuum and clean them up. I look down a lot in my life so that I humble myself to know that if the floor is not clean and things are not dusted and cleaned, I will not be a “Messy” person, but rather a “Dirty” person which I am not. Moving molecules is a big thing with me. Whenever you move a body part, that is moving molecules as well.

This is a secret because when you think of the high piles of clothes and shoes, you may get an image of the reality that is my life. There is no need for me to bring it up and: The only person that you ever need to tell the whole truth to every day is: your spouse of significant other. The rest, you “Can” do or say it, but you also can say nothing and even “Lie,” as long as the lie is not about killing someone or stealing or anything that could get you into trouble. There, you owe the Court, or better than that, Your Lawyer must know the full truth to help you win in Court.

While I am on the topic of Court. Whenever you go, throw away all of the reality stuff I talk about and deal directly with the issue. If you did not do what they say, speak loudly and clearly in a Deposition which is before you go to Court. It lets the Prosecutor team know what they are up against and there is no more powerful weapon than truth. Also, in Court, 1 party is guilty and 1 party is innocent. In real life, everyone of us is guilty and innocent. There is no such a thing in “Real” life you take responsibility for everything your body and mind is involved with and don’t “Make” anyone do anything. In Court, since you are playing: Their Game: Play to win. That means you are completely innocent and the other party is completely guilty… trust in that you then do your best to make sure you don’t go to prison. I have not done any time in prison, but in days gone by, I was in a Philly Holding cell for 3 days, people coming and going and the hardest part I found was: Boredom. When I am free I do so much. To be made to sit in 1 place and in a holding cell, not like going to prison with “3 Hots and a Cot,” if the “Turnkey” does not come when you yell, or if all others are gone for hours as they are taken to the “Round House” in Philly where they will have a trial by TV. You get a Lawyer and see all 3 on the TV, including Judge and Prosecutor. Speak to win, not caring about truth. Repent later. I know this is right.

I am going to cap of Joy and Pain by reminding you: no one is better than the other and when you are out of Prison, you do not actually remember the feelings you felt. Tom Hopkins said: “The pain of change is forgotten once the change takes place.” I would put it this way: you remember it in your mind, but use forgiveness as if you have a good memory, you will not forget it ever and can use it to know what freedom is which is the thread throughout my “Stuff” here at Medium. Up and Down goes the World. You job is to stay even in a straight line while life is going up and down. And do not add any of your “Stuff” to what has been handed to you. It will not serve you well at all and it is just more work. Once you make the mistake of telling too much, you will learn, less is best: but be direct to the point and that you did not do it. Case Closed!