Look around, this is your life

We have dreams, goals, wants, needs. The problem is, our dreams are what drives us. Then we think about what we need to do. This is wrong. It is not something you do, it’s something you become. If you look around, and really look at where you are in your pursuit of your dreams, goals, wants, and needs. You’ll see that is who you have become. The changes are small usually.

Don’t want to change?

If where you are now is not where you want to be (dreams). Then you’re going to have to change. It is not something you do. It’s something you become. If the thought of changing anything is daunting, scary, and most importantly you are not going to do it. Then stop right here. This is you. Be happy. If you are willing to change your routine, the way you think, how you do things, then you are ready to work on the dreams.

Just arrived

We make minor changes, then we enjoy this new point in the path. Change is not bad. Especially in this case, you are at this point along the path to your goal. This place you are in now, is great. You’ve made it this far, but still a ways to go. Maybe you’ve just got to this point, and want to settle in. That is also perfectly fine. Take the great feeling you have with where you are and enjoy it. Keep in mind there is more things you want to accomplish, and will require additional change. Leave it there, as a black box that needs to be opened and thought about at some point, but not now. Enjoy this place until you are compelled to continuing the hike through the path.

The truth

You can not continue until you realize that things are going to have to change. It’s not something you do. It’s something you become. If you think the changes are temporary or just something that is done and over with and get back to the way it is now. Then Stop right here. This will never work.

When am I ready

How to know when you are ready? You’ll need to really stop and look around. Really think about how things are going. What you want to do. What you want more of, less of, different. You’ll probably be irritated or fed up with the way it is now in some way. Lets change this, and that means you need to change.

Change is what you do or not do

But what about this thing that I had no control over. That made me change? Well, yes that happens, but how you are prepared for this event, how you deal with it, and not dwell on it, and make positive corrections is the key.

It’s not really hard to do this. I went in depth how working really hard is wrong. Not that i’m saying it’s not good to work on something, but that the common though that it must be hard and has to be hard. That is wrong.

What to do next

Good, your ready. Let’s mold your new self to what you want to be. Become the person you want, by acting the part now, and the rest will fall into place. You’ll have to say No many times. If it doesn’t align with your end goal, then it’s the wrong path. Paying someone else to do something is often the correct answer. You can’t do this alone. No one will help you get to your goal, it’s up to you to find the people that want to do what you don’t. It’s not because they are helping you get to your goal, it’s that their goals align with your needs.

Find what aligns with your positive well being. Get control back into your life. Find people that need this, and they will happily engage you to do this. So you like to do something, it provides you with a positive well being, happy, energized. They get something done. This is how the world works.

Doing nothing is what you’ll get

If you want to believe what you hear and think that once I get X, I can sit on the beach and do nothing. That’s wrong. Do nothing, and nothing good will happen. Seriously. Vacations and extended times of relaxations are great. It’ll recharge you, find out what you don’t need to do, that you thought you had to do previously. It’s a way to simplify your life (hopefully). But if your goal is that I need to just do this, then i’m done. Stop reading now and go no further. Wait until you let this gel in your mind and come back. If you come back. Live in the fantasy world of admiring other people and be happy, envious, or despite. You choose. Or make positive change and become the person you always where and let the world see this.