Yesterday I got into an argument with my wife, not the best way to start her day. She was feeling overwhelmed, I was being insensitive. As she left, I realized that what she needed was for me to hear her and tell her that I am here to help.
So when she got to work, I called her and told her I love her. Then last night I made dinner and picked up the children, this morning I got up early and made her coffee and oatmeal as she left for work.
Acts of service.
That’s what my wife needs most from me because that’s her love language. Do you know about the 5 Languages of Love? They are:
- Acts of Service
- Words of Affirmation
- Physical touch
- Quality Time
- Gifts
Don’t love your loved one in a way that you want to be loved. Love them in the way that THEY need to be loved, otherwise, it will mean very little to them.
The person you love most has one dominant love language.
Don’t know what it is? Just watch what they do for others, that’ll be their dominant love language. If your husband or boyfriend loves to give gifts for others, that’s his love language.
So when you want to love him, for a birthday, anniversary, Christmas, etc, it would be silly for you not to buy him a gift but instead shower him with words of affirmation, it won’t mean much to him!
Instead, pick up a nice gift, something thoughtful, not cheap or easy, in other words, don’t get it at the 99cent store, then wrap it nicely and make a big deal of it, that’s how he will receive love. He will consider that moment 100% awesome, whereas if you tell him you like his new haircut, it will fill his love tank to maybe 15%.
When I was insensitive to my wife, I made dinner for her, I picked up the children, I made her coffee, I did active things because her love language is acts of service.
This morning, as she left for work, she said to me “thank you for making dinner, that meant a lot to me and by the way, I love your new song”.
My love language is words of affirmation so now both of us are feeling just fine.
Thanks so much for reading,
Until next time,
Your #GOZO! friend,
davidTrig
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