How We Can Take Control of Our Own Destiny

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After watching an episode of Avatar the Last Airbender, there was a quote that struck out to me that was said by the fortune teller. The fortune teller told Aang that “You are in control of your own destiny”. This really struck to me because I realize that we really are in control of our own destiny. The way we live our life can also determine the outcome of our destiny. Let’s say if we chose to eat sweet and junk food everyday, then the consequences are that we are going to have a lot of health problems in the future. Daily habits, routines, and how we spend are time are the catalyst of shaping our destiny.

A lot of us wants to be successful, whether it be in a sport, social media, in a relationship, or in a business; but everything that we want to be successful in takes time and practice. If we do not spend time on the thing that we want to be successful in, then how would you ever expect to be good or an expert in that field. If you are like me and read a lot of books about self development, have you ever actually applied or fulfilled what you wanted to do? It looks easy when you see someone who is successful already, but in reality, there are a lot of hardships, struggles, and obstacles that the person had to go through in order to be successful. I like to think about success like an iceberg, everyone sees the tip of the iceberg, but there are much more things below the iceberg that people do not know about.

In order to be in charge of your own destiny, you need to:

1. Define your goals

Create a list of things you want to accomplish, and set an arbitrary deadline for that goal. Setting an arbitrary deadline will help you organize your time around that goal. For example, my first goal is that I want to be an excellent piano player within 6 month. My second goal, is to be an astronaut by 2020.

2. Identify the steps it takes to get to that goal

Once you have defined your goals, list out the steps that you think it takes for you to get to that goal. The steps that you identify must be measurable and achievable for you to meet with that goal. For example, since my goal is to be an piano player within 6 months, I need to first, spend 3 hours a day practicing the piano. Second, I need to have an piano instructor to help me perfect my piano skills at least twice a week. Third, I need to perform in front of an audience at least once a week.

3. Take Action to get to that goal

Now that you have identified the steps that it takes to get to the goal; take action and do it, do not waste your time, and stay focused on the tasks that you have defined.

4. Reevaluate the steps you have identified will get to you to that goal

Lastly, you need to reevaluate how you did. Not every plan or action that you have will be successful. Sometimes it just takes more time to accomplish that that goal. If the tasks that you have identified has not prepared you for the goal, then come up with different tasks, or just extend the time allowed to meet with your goal.

You are in charge of your own destiny, if you want to be successful at something, set goals for yourself, identify the tasks it takes for you to reach your goal, stay focused on that tasks, and reevaluate the steps after you completed the tasks to see if it was successful or not. If it does not work, you have not wasted anytime at all, because you are slowly getting better and better at something that you were not an expert at before.