Don’t be blinded to your own self-worth by others’ negative comments

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Everyday most of us let someone “walk through [our] minds” with their words and actions. For example, we listen to others’ opinions on our looks, choices, and behaviors, and then we turn them into cold hard facts our brains (and hearts) believe. But it doesn’t stop there. …


What done is done, but what remains ahead is up to you

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And to move forward in life, it is imperative to explore these hidden spaces. Not avoid them. It’s one of the hardest things to do, but it’s also one of the most important.

Why?

Because until we acknowledge our inner life, our outer life can’t change.

Case in point.

I am a chain smoker. My part-time job as a writer has made that worse. And a year ago when I started to take my writing seriously, I put all my other hobbies away. I was addicted to my work. Everything else fell to the wayside. …


When I let go of the pressure to perform, the end results were better than I ever thought possible

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And this is an endless cycle for me and all the other members of the “overachiever’s club.” And if you’re reading this article, you’ve also probably got a membership card. …


Why reduced sensory input is adding to our woes and our sickness

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As a matter of fact, research points to the fact that some of our feelings of hopelessness and COVID-induced depression may be related to two everyday things that most of us took for granted pre-pandemic: smiles and hugs. …


Why I have to state my truths, even though you’ll hate me for it

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I will no longer let the fear of vicious comments or replies stop me from speaking what I believe to be right. I will also never give a message that everybody will agree with. I know that even my most faithful followers will never agree 100% with what I say. I also know that they know that and are fine with it. I am done letting the bullies win. They won’t anymore. Not here.”

For months, now, I’ve been afraid to air my views. I’m a people pleaser. Conflict avoidant. But when there’s more fear of harm from suppressing inner truths than of fighting outside forces, a decision must be made. …


We’re not really as smart as we think we are, and here’s why

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The truth is we excel at being ignorant. It’s our greatest “strength” as members of the human race. And that, my friends, is a sad, sad fact.

Why?

Because our ignorance, lies, and deceptions are keeping us from successful relationships, keeping us from personal growth, and keeping us from seeing the truth about our own identity, the identities of others, and our world as a whole.

Think about it.

We say things all the time that reveal our own ignorance. We do this when we say phrases such as “I know what he’s up to,” or “I know what she’s trying to do,” or when we pridefully state that “I know what the problem is,” or “the simple truth…


I can’t summon the breeze, but I can let you know I’m holding my breath too

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I remember one of those days this past summer. I was trying to get into a walking habit to lift my growing melancholy, and it was a steamy ninety degrees. I was sweating and thirsty. My mouth was dry because I had forgotten to bring my water bottle with me (dumb, I know), but on that day, I noticed a wonderful thing. …


Yes, cutting carbs and calories will make a big difference in the numbers on the scale, but adding proteins will make a bigger one

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To keep his weight loss going, he reads up on just about everything related to food and how it affects his body’s abilities to let go of fat and build muscle. As a result of his extensive research, his conversations with me now typically revolve around these subjects. …


I fight the battle every day, and I relapse occasionally, but I’m not going to make it a habit…even if it costs me cash in the process

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I suppose on many levels your strategy makes perfect sense, which is why I have a hard time not doing it. After all, you are giving your audience what they want. And your audience is Medium writers. They want, and you provide. I get it.

And it makes you money. Which is another reason why I put my hands together in prayer against falling prey to this temptation. …


The things you hate in others are the things you refuse to see in yourself, and it’s keeping you from living your best life

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Chances are those traits you despise so much in other people are ones you also contain, ones that your defense mechanisms refuse to let you acknowledge.

Psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud termed this tendency to judge others harshly and deny your own flaws as projection. Psychology Today defines this term as “the process of displacing one’s feelings onto a different person, animal, or object.”

And Freud’s research, combined with the later research of other psychologists, conveys that this refusal to identify your own “dark traits” and attempt to overcome them hinders your ability to have fulfilling relationships and also saps your energy, creativity, and success. …

About

Dawn Bevier

My name is Dawn Bevier, and I am a teacher, thinker, learner, and writer. I love literature and all things “wild, airy, and beautiful.” @dawnbevier

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