Are Apologies Really Worth Waiting For?
By Dawn D.
I’ve recently came across this quote by author, Robert Brault —
“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”
So let’s say you feel you’ve been wronged and are owed an apology from someone — perhaps you even apologized on your end and the apology was not reciprocated — when you truly feel like you deserve one.
So it lingers…
It may not consume you every day, but you may spend some time thinking about it — even if it’s a few minutes here of there.
Maybe it’s a little more significant and it consumes more of your time than you can afford.
You go over everything about the situation and wonder why — WHY — you did not get the apology that you 100% deserve.
That is when it becomes an issue. The time you spend thinking and waiting for an apology you may never actually get is a complete waste of time. You could be doing anything else productive (or even unproductive).
But what if, on the flip side, the other person doesn’t feel like they owe you an apology? Could you be okay with that? Should you be okay with that?
The answer is yes.
Yes you should be okay with that because you really need to be okay with that to move on with your life.
I speak from my own personal experience on this as I am still waiting for an apology (that I feel I deserve) that I am fairly certain I will not receive.
So if I am assuming that apology will not come, why do I keep waiting…and waiting…?
My guess would be that it’s because I want closure on the subject. As humans we like closure.
I want the other person to know and feel that they did me wrong. I want them to accept this and admit to their mistakes.
That being said, I’ve come to realize that it all comes down to acceptance.
For some people, acceptance can be a hard thing to grasp (and accept), but if you can simply accept the fact that you may never receive an apology, you will realize that it’s not the end of the world, and your life really will become easier.
How will it become easier?
You will be able to focus on more important things that require your attention. You will be able to progress and grow as a human.
So if you didn’t get that apology you feel like you deserve, I have just three words for you…
LET IT GO!
Once you learn to let things go that are out of your control — you will be able to use that same strategy in the future should a similar situation arise.
The New Year should be the year of letting things goes to make room for other amazing things that are bound to come your way.
Stop waiting and get out there and enjoy the moments that are happening around you right now.