Kenneth, I’m so sorry you had to go through both of those experiences. I can only imagine what growing up in that household was like, but I can tell you came out of it okay and are a good father to your daughter, in that you have made the effort to understand the thinking behind what she did. That’s true love.
There is one major way we can protect the victims and prosecute those that are guilty while also protecting those falsely accused: process the invasive rape kits instead of destroying them and/or letting them sit untested. I think you might be interested in this link: http://www.endthebacklog.org/
I wish all the best for you.