This is profound.
I’ve always been one of those people predisposed to picking up other peoples’ messes, even at the risk of ignoring my own. It does nothing but enable them, and reading this was the final “nail in the coffin” so to speak. I really need to stop doing that! I’ve let myself become severely ill before while devoting my attention entirely to another (luckily I recently got the help I needed and am currently on the road to recovering my health). I’ve let myself be seriously hurt while trying to mend another’s mental wounds brought on by a dysfunctional and abusive family. It’s usually a cycle, and there’s always someone at the bottom, trying to pick everyone else up at the expense of themselves.
Thank you for finally making me fully realize it by sharing your own stories. I think you might’ve just changed a life.