DC
DC
Sep 6, 2018 · 1 min read

I think I started recognizing my partners needs in my late twenties. My first girlfriend was hyper-sexual so her orgasms weren’t rare or difficult to achieve.

Later I dated a woman who’d claimed she’d never “gotten there” and although we openly tried different things, we only ever came close. She said something just held her back. I probably should have read a book at this point, but my next girlfriend also had an easy time so I remained uneducated on important female physiology where orgasms are concerned.

Then I met my now ex-wife and although she lived sex, it was always a challenge helping her achieve an orgasm. So I read a book. It marginally improved things with my ex, but in hindsight her challenges were about sleep, kids, stress, and deciding I wasn’t the right man for her long term.

Since my divorce there have been a couple of partners and I put my book knowledge to the test. Results have been fairly well received.

Throughout all of this I have never blamed my partner or remotely made them feel inadequate. I’d say I was attentive and patient, knowing that 90% of sexual release is being in the moment, feeling safe, and being with someone you trust.

I’d encourage you to frame that frigid guy as ignorant, immature, and not at all representative of your sexuality.

I’m glad you found a synchronous partner. Honestly I think that’s the secret. Finding someone that just lets you be who you are, without the slightest awareness that you are anything but perfect as you are.

DC

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