couldn’t read it all, the husband’s behaving too much like a jerk. in reality we do behave similarly in part, so your article could be a partial metaphor of an extreme situation. meanwhile, my training that a husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church — harder in practice than in theory — is still my standard; so everything else comes across at best like a germ-laden band aide. you will say, “you don’t need Christ to avoid being a jerk.” fine — but Christ embraced cuts through every situation. doesn’t make it easy, but will eliminate any justifying hateful behavior — which when practiced by both spouses is a recipe for long term victory.