Looking for your purpose in life? Use frameworks.
This blog originally appeared on April 11, 2016 on ddmirolli.com
I can’t wait to tell you all about the changes that are coming. There’s a lot of exciting stuff happening and we’re approaching the countdown to when the real work begins anew. But for this week, let’s talk about frameworks.
Those that know me, whom seek me for council, and whom hear the result of my internal processing, know my love of frameworks. The Scientific Method. The 4 Humors. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. The Pareto Principle. The GTD Method.
I find frameworks helpful at cutting through the noise of life. At elucidating the truth. At noticing my own biases. They’ve become how I operate. How I view the world. And how I select what earns my focus.
Do I move to New York or stay in Madrid?
Should I commit time to this online course or enjoy more time with friends?
Do I order the extra large pizza with pepperoni AND bacon?
No matter which framework you’re using, they all start with questions. Good frameworks must act as filters so a question has only a single motivator. For example, most people see frameworks as an answer to their ultimate question:
“What am I supposed to do with my life?”
No one can answer that. Not a framework. Not a book. Not a mentor, advisor, or parent. And not just because it assumes that there’s a right answer or some overarching plan. This is a shitty question.
Because all manor of influences can cloud a mind in answering it.
Where will you live? What will you eat? Are you qualified? Is this realistic? What will you do for money? What will “they” think? Can you achieve this? Are you young enough? Old enough? Smart enough? Pretty enough? Talented enough? Know the right people? Have enough money? Have enough time? Is it worth the risk? Are there more sensible options? Would you be happier with another purpose? Should you be like her? Should you follow what he did, instead?
Pretty f&cking noisy, huh? There’s a great quote:
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
The most uncomfortable conversations we can have, the ones that really hurt, the ones that really matter, are the ones we have with ourselves.
If you want to discover what you want to do with your life, the question to ask is not the obvious.
“What do I want to do with my life?”
That’s marginally better. But it still invites all the noisy questions into our heads. So, let’s build ourselves a framework.
Building a Framework
A framework needs a frame. So let’s frame the supports we need. What’s the goal of this question?
We want the end result.
We want a single answer.
We don’t want any worry about anything else swaying our answer.
We want the courage to be honest with ourselves.
We want the noisy questions to keep quiet.
We want the ideal reality identified.
We want a problem to solve.
So what question does our framework create?
If you won $200 million today, what would you be doing 3 months from now?
After you’ve paid the taxes. After you’ve helped your family members. After you’ve bought the toys, taken the trips, eaten the meals, thrown the parties. You wake up in a house to silence, with no worry of bills, food, or any circumstantial or ephemeral thing standing in your way.
What do you do?
Find the answer to that question and you’ll be lifetimes ahead of most.
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Project I’m Working On
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Stay curious. Stay brave.
That’s all for now. Ponder that question this week. And feel free to share your answer in a reply.