It’s clear that there’s two kinds of people involved in this story:
- The first is someone who made a mistake, said something inappropriate without thinking of the consequences, then tried everything they could to correct themselves when they appropriately got into trouble.
- The second is someone who was hurt, appropriately by said comment, then refused to heed an apology, and instead inappropriately escalated the issue disregarding their role to play in an altercation.
See, it’s quite simple — Ali may have made a horrible mistake, but he’s not a genuinely horrible person. The victim, on the other hand, believes:
“As the victim in the matter I don’t owe Ali anything. I don’t have to accept his apology. I do not have to give him the benefit of the doubt. I don’t have to be someone’s teachable moment.”
This illuminates the character of this victim. If someone, even unintentionally, hurts someone — they can be forever damned for something they didn’t even know they did. That’s the perspective of a horrible person.