Is the Heavy Lifting in Your Partnership 50/50?

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Partnership definition: Parties agree to cooperate to advance their mutual interests.

Partnerships develop in many different ways. It can be a brick and mortar business, service, author-publisher relationship, marriage, collective bargaining agreement, and much more.

You already know when things don’t feel right, when the communication is lacking, when it seems like the heavy lifting is not 50/50, but rather 70/30 or even 90/10.

To check to see if a partnership is still working for you, maybe the best measurement is: how do you feel?

  • Do you feel pressured to do things you are not prepared to do?
  • Do you feel respected?
  • Do you feel like you are the only one committed to the partnership and to advancing the mutual interest?
  • Do you feel like your partner isn’t all-in?
  • Do you feel like you and your partner are not on the same page?
  • Do you feel like your partner doesn’t follow through on their promises?
  • Do you hear crickets when you’re looking for an answer that requires some attention?

If you feel that these issues cannot be resolved, it’s time to be clear about your own wants and needs and if it is time for you to take a bold step.

Some say that when a partnership ends, the friendship ends. I don’t think that is true. There are a lot of times I’ve moved on from projects, but still remained closely acquainted or friends with the other party. Just because your partner(s) are not on the same page anymore, doesn’t mean it’s over. Maybe it’s a time-out. In the case of a publisher or employee-employer relationship, maybe it can be revisited when there is a new owner or manager at the helm.

Everything we do propels us to this moment. If your partnership is taking a break until the other members get their life together, if there is nothing left to move the mutual interest forward, if it really is the end, and even if the divorce is confrontational — every experience you encountered has made you who you are today, for richer or poorer. If you don’t like what you see in the mirror, then your bold step cannot be attributed to your partner.


Published on July 16, 2016 LinkedIn

Debbie Elicksen is a virtual publicist, social media professional, writer, and marketing and transmedia strategist. You can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and LinkedIn.