Or Why Do So Few Guys Clean Out their Refrigerators? — When I started dating again after being widowed at fifty, I wondered, where are the men who act like grown ups? The ones who get their gutters cleaned, keep their homes reasonably tidy, have edible food in their refrigerators, and want a life partner instead of easy sex. The ones who want a love that lasts. Even though they know it isn’t always easy.

When I started dating at fifty after losing my husband, my biggest surprise was that everyone was disillusioned. Most of the men I met weren’t expecting much beyond an empathy machine. …

Or Time for the Lysistrata Method — I’ve been reading lately about the difficulties women over thirty-five face in finding a good man. Statistically, it’s even worse for those of us over fifty. My conclusion: Dating itself has failed us. Originally, dating led to marriage. Sex was coupled with commitment, and accountability was paramount. If a guy…

Or I never tried to convince a guy to clean out my roof gutters. — If I could describe middle-aged daters in one word, it would be bitter. And that bitterness is destroying our chances at finding love. Let’s start with the origins of our resentment For many of us, it began with the very event, usually death or divorce, that caused us to be single in the first place. We never expected…

When we fail to believe we deserve better — When my husband died in April of 2013, I didn’t think I deserved to have a future. By the time he was diagnosed with male breast cancer, it was already at Stage Four. At least, that’s what I believe. He never told me about having any symptoms until he announced…