Buddhists like to call the path transcending dualism the Middle Way. I find it easier to navigate everyday life thinking about it as a grey area. I like the old Zen saying, “Things are not as they seem, nor are they otherwise.” This ambiguity is unappealing to many people, especially Westerners who are conditioned by ambitious or productive consciousness. Sometimes we get caught up in thinking that X is X and Y is Y, when in reality every decision has countless exponential consequences that we have no way of discerning up-front. There’s simply no way to make the ‘right’ decision, since we can only define ‘right’ in theory and do not know what will happen in reality.