English Conversation Practice

I wonder a lot about spirituality. I think it’s helpful to study a lot, read a lot, talk to people you feel a connection with to pass the time in a spiritual journey. I don’t understand people who claim that they are deeply spiritual beings who know the best way to live but they always end up getting angry, frustrated, showing negative feelings when I bring up certain topics. I can conclude that everyone is human and everyone likely suffers from psychological problems and that there are a lot of people who can’t see anyone else but themselves. I can also conclude that healing by reading self-help books and putting all hope in a religion or philosophy doesn’t really heal.

I have found out that the man I speak of below strongly believes in Christianity and strongly recommends it to anyone who goes through any hardship as guidance and healing. I have also found out that he is easily irritated and is unhappy deep down and still resents the girl who no longer wanted to be romantically involved with him three years ago yet still preaches that Christianity is a phenomenal religion and change you to be the most positive person you can be.

I don’t know why I always come face-to-face with people who show their true, deeply sad selves and I have to be patient and smile through the conversations because it’s part of the job.

The following is an English conversation lesson.

I asked a young man, “Someone wants to go on a romantic vacation with their partner (and the person plans to propose to their partner), which place would you recommend the person to go?”

He answered, “I would like to talk about myself. If I were to propose to someone, I would take her to the highest building in the city.”

“That sounds great. The view is always nice from on top of a building. Perhaps it’d be on top of a luxury hotel?”

“It doesn’t matter. I don’t have to go on holiday with my partner. There are many good places in this city. I’m a very simple man.”

“Okay. That’s nice. Appreciating the small things is nice.”

“I would ask her to marry me and I would say that if she doesn’t then I would jump off the building and kill myself.”

“Um, okay, you can’t force someone to do anything; just like you can’t force someone to follow Catholicism or Hinduism or Buddhism. There shouldn’t be any force.”

“I would seriously kill myself.”

“Don’t think that way. You’ve been talking about doing what makes you happy so I think you should let others do what makes them happy too, right? Nobody should be obligated to follow what you think is right when making a huge decision. There are other ways to be happy.”

“I wanted to kill myself three years ago; I don’t want to hear ‘no’ ever again. How is anyone okay when they ask someone to marry them and the person says ‘no’?”

I firmly responded, “Marriage is a very serious life-changing event. No one should marry when they aren’t ready. Your saying that you would kill yourself wouldn’t be effective and it’s wrong. It’s manipulative. It’s taking advantage of someone’s feelings.”

He said, “I wish I could force everyone to be Christian because it’s the right way. It’s the way to happiness.”

I replied, “You call yourself a very spiritual and very religious person who has inner peace but when you said that you would kill yourself when someone wouldn’t marry you, it sounds like you have a problem. If someone forced you to do something, you won’t be happy. Can you see that forcing someone to do anything is wrong? Can you see this?”

“My way is right. I’m right. My feelings are important.”

“Let’s continue to the next topic. How often do you go to a travel agency?”

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