I used to do the same thing . . . fall for someone’s potential. It was all I saw. Problem was I felt broken, so I sought broken, unconsciously hoping we could heal together. Guys would say, “If only I’d found you sooner, I’d have . . . , and I’d be off to the alter. Inevitably, they’d resent me and walk (more family of origin re-runs). I finally learned to fix myself. And now I’m no longer attracted to men with potential.