Pushing back on a mediocre life
I’m writing this from my bed. Ill. Weak, sneezing and useless. Not changing anyone’s life, not getting anywhere, not helping anyone. Currently I’m the definition of mediocre. Mediocre Dee. Even though mediocre means ‘average’ it’s still shifted toward to the negative end of the scale isn’t it.
But I’m pushing back. Well maybe not today. But another day I’m going to push back.
But not in that way. Not in a self-promotional, ‘I’m destined for great things’, ‘I’m going to make something of myself if it’s the last thing I do’ way. Because that’s weird. And no one likes those people.
In my mind a mediocre life is your default setting. It’s when you let yourself coast, when you passively float by and along in life, in that job that’s fine and that relationship that keeps you company and with those nice friends and hobbies that give you something to do at evenings and weekends. This’ll probably work out just fine for you. You’ll probably get promoted at points along the way, you’ll probably get married and have wonderful children and you’ll probably get really good at your hobby.
But along the way you have been faced with decisions — you’ve been given the opportunity to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to this opportunity or that experience. But instead you’ve avoided the decision, you’ve put it off until the moment passed and things were back to normal as they should be.
The mediocrity that I want to push back on is not letting that moment pass by. Not missing things where, if you’d said ‘yes’ or said ‘no’ your path would have taken a ‘dog-tooth’ a left-turn. And why do I think dog’s teeth are so good? Well I think it makes you a better person.
Now before you stop reading because you’re tired of my blasé, sweeping statements hold on a sec. If you push back on mediocrity you become the opposite of mediocrity right? What’s the opposite of mediocrity? Un-mediocre? Abnormal? Higher than average? None of these are particularly flattering or aspirational terms but as a result of becoming un-mediocre you change. You see things differently, you ask more questions, you take more risks, you’re no longer on default.
That’s what I want to be: ‘Unmediocre’. Not for the sake of it or for personal gain or achievement. But I think you put yourself at risk of having the most full, exciting and unique life. A life full of regrets and feelings and successes and exposure and surprise. I have no idea what that looks like yet and I’ll never know whether I’ve just made my life more difficult but I’m just going to have to run with it and see.
But maybe after a hot lemon and honey drink.