To ‘put yourself out there’ or to wait — that is the question

As I teeter on the ledge of 2016, the drop seems cavernous and unknown.

Because I’m toying between two worlds at the moment. Many of you may have also experienced this dilemma whether you’re a long-time single person seeking ‘the one’, or whether you’re like me and you feel like you’ve done all you can to try and discover your dream job but nothing has worked out or come up so far. Should you continue to ‘put yourself out there’ — push a new door, apply for a new job, go on another date or should you wait. In the hope that, it’ll work out in the end.

My whole life is due to change this year. After getting engaged (woohoo!) at the back-end of 2015, in 6 months time (all being well) I’m due to have a new husband, a new name and a new house. Even my church is changing locations and as you’ve probably read by now, I’m still exploring what I should be doing for work.

And as I think about how I should approach the coming year my instinct is to err for the ‘putting myself out there’ camp. Mainly because I hate waiting. Maybe I should just apply to a ton of jobs just to feel like I’m getting somewhere and doing something.

However, I recently stumbled across this quote the other day which threw me a little bit:

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates and a monthly salary” Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Is the hope of a secure monthly salary in my dream job not as green on the other side as I thought? Should I not worry about settling down so soon and just chill out a bit and keep doing things I enjoy?

As 2016 has the danger of whisking me up into a ball of stress and busy-ness and planning and changes I’m reminded that it might be more of a help to stop and trust in what’s to come. Rather than trying to plan out my career path as pedantically as I’m currently planning the wedding centrepieces I will keep myself ready to ‘put myself out there’ at the right times and to wait at the right times. It’s something I can’t plan further than a few days in advance but it’s time for me to be ok with that.

So when it comes to ‘putting yourself out there’ or waiting. I’m going to give trusting and observing a go. Whipping them out at the right times. And we’ll just have to see what happens next.