Deirdre Faust
Nov 4 · 1 min read

IIRC, Blanchard’s original question went something like, “When fantasizing about sex acts, you visualize yourself as a sexy woman” (agree/disagree or Likert scale, not sure which). For a man to do this seems weird. For a woman to do this seems normal. To even pose the question to cis women seems unproductive, almost pointless. We all idealize ourselves in our fantasies, and it’s completely unremarkable; but when trans women do it, suddenly it’s eViDeNcE oF aUtOgYnEpHiLiA (rolleyes.jpg).

You ask, “ What does it mean for a cisgender woman to have a Female Embodiment Fantasy? Since her gender doesn’t change, isn’t that just a typical sexual fantasy?” I think, first, you have to define “typical sexual fantasy” (like the article Serano links), because what common sense says is “weird” or “not normal” is actually WAY more common than we think it is, because we don’t talk about it that much in public. In other words, many things we think of as “weird” in day-to-day life are actually very common or even typical.

The point is that a trans woman fantasizing of herself as a sexy woman is just as “normal” as a cis woman doing so, because both are women (and both sexes have cross-sex fantasies as well, without it necessarily meaning anything).

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