Meditations on Love and Fear

When you love someone, there is also this gnawing, ever present fear. This fear is rooted in the possibility of loss and disappointment. The questions ‘What if I disappoint him?’ or ‘What if I lose her?’ worry us to no end.

I have learnt over time that fear is not a bad thing — provided you don’t let it cripple you. Provided you are not afraid to be afraid.

Being in love with someone means that you will also be in fear with that person. You can visualise love and fear as spaces of the same intensity that you share with this person. Now when you both are in this space, the fear that should drive you is the fear of disappointing yourself and the fear of losing yourself. The questions you should be asking are ‘Will I disappoint myself by not living up to my potential?’ and ‘Will I lose myself without her?’.

Love is a drug. It is up to us to decide if we want it to be a narcotic or an entheogenic. In this sense, love and fear are equal. They coexist.