I loved Louis CK. Growing up, I wanted to be like him. I remember how much I was in awe of his stage presence. My YouTube history comprised of all his stand ups, bits, shows, interviews, everything. I used to think how can someone be so effortlessly funny on stage; how can someone evoke so much laughter while narrating his simple life instances; I mean how can someone be so funny while talking about his child’s assholery, who is just five; how can someone make people laugh while he is narrating how he made her wife give him a blowjob when she clearly didn’t want to. He made people laugh on how he called another child Jizzen the Puss and how he almost beat him up… a child! And not to forget how he made remarks about how lesbian sex is just so not natural in broad daylight. Well, people laughed. And, I laughed at every single one of his jokes. So, are we the enablers? Are we the ones who pushed his misogynist behaviour attributes to the point that it enabled him to take advantage of his position? Are we the ones who made him stand on this pedestal by climbing women’s shoulders? And now we are the one objecting on how he shouldn’t return to comedy ever…haa! But before you and I take this guilt upon ourselves, let me make a few points. People can make you laugh on things they find funny; and people find those things funny which are not serious to them. He made us laugh on things which he didn’t consider serious. A large number of comedians use humour as a defence mechanism. Not only they make jokes in situations when they feel uncomfortable or anxious, they also make jokes about things which make them feel uncomfortable and anxious. You see how woman comedians are accused of always making jokes about bras, boobs and periods; these things makes us uncomfortable. We joke about such things so that people can take these lightly and in turn can normalise how we want to take these things lightly. So that everytime we go for buying a pad or tampon, we are not faced with awkward stares (or a contraception, for that matter). Louis joked about things he didn’t take seriously and didn’t want you take seriously either. For him, woman is a secondary gender. Another manifestation of this attribute is his talking about his failed marriage on stage.
People also make jokes about things they cannot say directly to someone without sounding negative. So, they mock those things to make them sound less serious. Louis was constantly making jokes about his marriage when his marriage was falling apart. He condemned married life to the point where he called it the “larvae stage for the ultimate happiness — divorce”. He moulded you hearts and minds in a form that made you think that marriage or women is not that serious concern, and his collective hatred towards these things is not that serious thing and hence justified.
In the rise of this second wave of #MeToo, I think, it’s safe to call everyone an enabler.