America. Hi, it’s me. I know… we haven’t talked in a while.
Look… I know you’ve been dating and flirting with a couple of presidential candidates. They’ve convinced you that they’re going to come in and everything will be better. There are a whole bunch of things that you don’t have to worry about. You’ll be taken care of. You’ll be great again.
Look. We’re friends so I have to say that it’s been really hard for me to watch. In fact, it’s because it’s so hard to watch that we haven’t spoken in so long. But as someone who cares about you and believes in you, I really feel like I had to get off the sidelines and say something.
You don’t need someone to come in and make everything great again. You don’t need someone to come in and fix everything. You never have. You’re good just the way you are and getting better everyday. At least, that’s true when you’re not obsessed with the idea of someone else coming in and fixing everything.
You’re hardworking and you’re very capable of figuring anything out that you put your mind toward. You’re intensely creative and productive. You don’t need to be “made great” again. You already have everything it takes.
And lately… you’re not yourself. Around these people, you’re neurotic and anxious. You’re tearing yourself apart as if you’re at war with yourself. Frankly, I would never let anyone else mistreat you the way you’re mistreating yourself. It’s not nice.
These people… they’re not good for you. I know they talk a good game but… They’re not going to “complete you” no matter how many promises they make.
Personally, I think you should ditch them all and move on. But human nature being what it is, I suspect that you will only come to see how bad your situation is when you can look back upon it having finished your journey through this moment.
So… in this moment, at least choose just one. And choose for yourself the best available, most stable partner that supports and nutures your creative output. Choose the one that helps you to see yourself at your best when you are around them.
Whether you listen to my advice, remember this: You’re my best friend and I’m sticking with you no matter what you decide. I believe in you. I always have. Yes, this is true even when you’re not yourself for a while. I am here for you.
Originally published at www.francisluong.com on October 17, 2016.