Will I ever call it rape? Well, maybe in my head. Why not? It’s not like I’m going to charge the guy or anything.
Whose Pain Counts?
Emma Lindsay

Most survivors don’t. The biggest reaction I hear to coercion scenes in pop culture is, “that can’t be rape because if what happened to her is rape, then I was raped, too. And I haven’t been raped.” Everyone is doing everything they can to keep this word from belonging to them, and I get it. I really, really do. But maybe it’s your word. Maybe it’s all our word.