Healing as Emotional Hygiene
It’s really hard to stand tall and to be a lighthouse when you do not know where you stand.
When you have to always look outside of yourself to see if you’re okay, to see if those around you are okay with you, to look to others to answer questions like, “Am I safe? Am I worthy? Am I lovable? Do I count, matter, exist?”
Usually these questions are not conscious after childhood, but they can be underwritten in all your strategies of how to navigate your life and the world.
I used to think that I had to uproot them, each and every one, by becoming hyper-conscious of every little thing, their origins, what was happening when they got in place in the first place.
Those were some exhausting, overthinking years!
The desire to want to know what it is that has been affecting you, what it is that has been making your nutty choices make sense is a good impulse towards consciousness, sure, but cultivating more wisdom is more empowering.
You are the kind of person who walks into the room and knows the emotional state of everyone in there, before you even know it.
Carrying around other’s emotions not only isn’t comfortable, it’s also confusing.
The women and men I work with inspire me on every call as we clear away the clutter of other people’s emotions, opinions, demands, projections and other limiting, debilitating energies.
I’ve seen it in me as well as everyone I have had the privilege of working with — there are parts, talents, abilities, capacities that you have been hiding or keeping out of the way to keep other’s around you more comfortable.
But those aspects of you know when to impose themselves. They know when to demand that you start to express them in your everyday life.
The more you allow other people’s emotions, information, and interpretations of you in your space defining you, the more challenging it is for you to let yourself BE your Self.
Part of the amazing good fortune of being alive in a body is the joy or adventure and discovery.
And the best discovery adventure on the planet is the one of being You.
The joy and experimentation of discovering what you love, what you want to do, what you’re good at; what is it you’re good at that you don’t ever want to do again, and what you are no good at that you are determined to get good at.
This life is meant to be a joy ride, a roll-up-your-sleeves-and-see-what-you-can-do joy ride.
But so much of our cultural programming has been to calm down and don’t make waves, accept everything, don’t make a fuss, don’t question things because you really are not much and have nothing great to offer. Lies. All lies and bullshit, hidden beneath much subtler, reasonable sounding sentences but that is the impact in the end.
Here’s the funny thing.
The world tells us we can’t come out and do/be/say stuff until someone else has said we can, like with a degree.
But one of the foundational joys of living is discovering the adventure of your capacities and how powerful you really are.
And these are the days for more of You to come into action.
No matter what transition you are in — shifting into a new identity in your new career, looking for your new career, shifting out of a long term relationship, empty nesting, or any other form of changing your life, you may find yourself a bit scared, insecure, uncertain.
The world may say those things are bad and you need to grow out of them quickly and not let others see you in that space.
I say — Welcome! To the true adventure of your life!
The more you can declutter — clear out energies that aren’t even yours — the more you can flourish.
The more you can flourish, the more your loved ones see that flourishing is possible.
The more you and your friends and loved ones know and live a life of flourishing, the more everyone can.
The more people are having the true adventure of their own lives, the more the community and culture can thrive.
Healing yourself truly does contribute healing to the world.
If you are interested in a custom Spiritual Living Program designed just for you, starting in early July, let me know if you. It’s time to Thrive and Shine.
