Imposter Syndrome + How To Kick Its Ass

You did it! You landed the dream job you’ve been pining for since university and now you are part of an amazing team.

You start work the following Monday and within five minutes you know you know there’s been a mistake. You don’t belong here. Everyone is so smart and talented and cool. You aren’t good enough. You’re going to fail. They’re going to figure you out.

Imposter syndrome is the disconnect between perceived and actual performance. You believe that you’ve gotten by on luck when reality is that it is your immense skill and talent that has pushed you ahead. You’re not alone in feeling this way. According to Psychology Today, over 70% of women and men have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their lives. So while you may think you’re alone in how you are feeling, the person beside your newly set up desk may be in the same headspace.

The good news is that imposter syndrome is not permanent and is 100% ass kickable. Here’s how:

Acknowledge The Imposter. Recognize that what you are feeling is the little voice in your head saying you can’t do it. What you’re feeling is not a sudden realization of incompetence or stupidity; it’s simply a bit of self doubt. Acknowledge and move forward.

Be Kind to Yourself. Understand that there will always be something you do not know and that you will never be perfect. Really think about that and you will instantly rid yourself of your imposter feelings. There will always be someone who knows more than you and there is literally no one on the planet that is perfect. Once you understand this give yourself a hug and some much needed acceptance.

Recognize Your Successes. You got to where you are not based on luck or chance but because of skill. Take a look back at your successes and acknowledge that you achieved all you have because of your own hard work. You got yourself to where you are. You’ve earned your spot and your successes are proof.

Ask Questions. Remember that seeking help from those around you is perfectly acceptable! Don’t let your fear of being annoying or looking stupid get in the way of your success. If you don’t know how to do something, ask for help — simple as that. We learned this in kindergarten people!

Say Thank You. When you receive positive feedback embrace and digest it. By denying it you are not only degrading that person’s judgement but you are also diminishing all that you have done to receive the given praise. Listen to the positive feedback and understand that you earned it.

Be Patient. Everyone is so smart and talented and cool. They didn’t get there in a day and neither will you. Starting at a new workplace or within a new position means giving yourself time to learn and adapt. Be patient and it will all work out.

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