Not for the faint of heart…but I found answers… — My Thanksgiving holiday this year was filled with love, joy, and time with my daughters and dear friends. But this is a new feeling for me over the last couple of years — years that I’ve been “uncoupled” after years of partnership with the wrong partners. Given the peace I’ve…

I believe in love despite all empirical evidence to the contrary. — If you’re single and over 50, it’s likely you’ve experienced some level of relationship trauma. You have baggage that you inherited, created, or fallen victim to. In my case, all three of these are true. When I found myself single again after a 13-year relationship at the age of 54…

My brother has spent his adult life measuring his success, or — more to the point — his lack of success, by what others took from him. Or at least what he perceived they took from him. We shared mixed roles with each other in childhood; sometimes allies, but more…

If you’re over 50 and still single, it’s easy to lose hope that you will ever find “the” one. You count enough bad experiences and before you realize it, you’ve become jaded in a way your twenty-year-old self would never have imagined. While in almost every area of my life…

Spoiler Alert — If you haven’t watched the end of The Golden Bachelor, stop reading. In light of the success and controversy surrounding the ending of The Golden Bachelor, there is a lot of talk about a potential Golden Bachelorette spin-off. I am a big fan of the show and…

When I realized I had my answers the entire time — In 1995, as I struggled in a challenging marriage and five years after my grandfather passed away, I often thought of the safety and peace I felt in his presence as a child. Growing up with my parents was anything but peaceful; his home in Cape May became my refuge…

Taking what can’t be replaced is the worst kind of theft — I should have realized on our third date, when you asked for my credit report, that you would eventually take my most valuable commodity. Fresh off chemo treatment for breast cancer, with scars on my breasts and lymph nodes, I felt fragile in a way that I didn’t truly understand…

I’ve been through some shit — there is no way around it. And, honestly, I’m better for it. I didn’t have parents who rescued me or supported me emotionally. In fact, when I was twelve and experiencing depression, I asked my mom to see a therapist; she told me that…

I’ve been trying to put into words how I’m feeling about the passing of Matthew Perry. Yes, Friends was part of my weekly tv viewing and water cooler talk at work the next day- but the sadness I am feeling is more than that. He was only a few years…