I guess I’ll throw in my two cents too:
Broadly, you’re right about a lot of things. Balkanization is bad, the rhetoric of internet SJA’s is comparable to the rhetoric of most /b/ lurkers, and most people (esp. on the internet) are just going to resort to calling you names instead of debating you on the issues. I honestly feel embarrassed (not even being dick here) for people who are so bad at communicating that they can’t respond to stances that differ from theirs without extreme sarcasm or ire. I feel even worse for people who are so arrogant and spiteful that they also alienate their would-be allies and divide their own “power in numbers” by shunning the least progressive members of a community until they’ve just got themselves. It’s sad to see the progress that we’ve made in the last 5 years getting undone when people who are terminally salty drive away would-be converts to SJA-ism by attacking them online. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve had to say, “Yeah, but feminism really isn’t about X, Y, and Z it’s about undoing the harmful effects of patriarchy that ALL people experience” to my pissed off, white, male friends and family, I’d be able to buy one of those cool SJW sweatshirts.
I don’t *really* see the point in trashing the 1-in-5 statistic (even if it is wrong) or arguing about the male-female wage gap. Even if both of these points are ceded to you, there’s still a mountain of evidence that around the world women face massive oppression and that we (especially white men) have a moral responsibility to help fix it. I know you’re *for* social justice, but a lot of the time I get the feeling that people writing these articles (including you, dear author) aren’t really *doing anything* for social justice. Prefacing everything with “I’m not racist, sexist, etc.” doesn’t really do much good — you should be actively working to end them in your daily actions. That doesn’t mean you have to shitpost Facebook until everyone’s eyes bleed or call out people publicly for being wrong. It means you have to engage with real people in real situations: you have to talk to the guy who catcalls a woman and tell him to cut it out, you have to talk to people who aren’t white and share a laugh, you have to respect people’s pronouns and frown sternly when someone makes jokes about a “tranny” they saw last week. If you treat people with love, they’ll probably respond by treating others with love (I just puked in my own mouth, but it’s true).
The sad irony is that the modern social justice movement (especially when it’s perpetuated on the internet by teenagers) does a great deal to purposefully alienate powerful white men, furthering their denial of privilege and misogynistic world-views. Sure, having rich white people on your side isn’t the be-all-end-all, and some of them are really nasty and deserve to be called douchebags. But categorically excluding these people from the movement is probably going to drive them further from listening and learning about social justice. We need to get all people on board, especially the powerful ones, and force the world to change. If these people as privileged as SJA’s say they are, you can bet that those same misogynist, racist idiots who were rebuked for their ignorance on internet forums will be the same people someday throwing away job applications when they see that someone was a community organizer or involved in their school’s feminist club. Sure, we’d all like to believe that these fuckers will die alone on the streets, but the truth is that a lot of the rich and powerful of today will probably end up being rich and powerful tomorrow. If they use their power to help empower the weak, that’s a win. If they use their power to oppress them, then we’ve failed at creating a more just society.