I think the large part of the problem in the current system is the burden of proof required for these cases to see the light of day in court. It requires a painful revisitation for a survivor. Making it a terrible option to seek justice. Without these components, there is no case.

We absolutely still need a criminal system to deal with rape and assaults. I’ve often wondered if survivors had option to a civil justice system where neither party is required to provide proof. Neither party risks jail time. However, a victim through legal mediation is able to call out someone for their actions. A victim impact statement so to speak. Both parties could be present at the same time or mediated separately for fear and emotional issues.

Not to belittle the victims lifelong affliction through no choice of their own. I’ve often wondered if men merely being called out would bring about change, if they would offer apology or at the very least validation towards the victim. If not facing the lengthy prison terms they deserve. I’m not advocating a get out of jail free card. The fact they have been called out will remain on a file as a note. Only usable if they are indicated again.

Something needs to change that favours the emotional burden of survivors, as well as a means to significantly decrease unreported cases in a less scrutinizing manner to victims but maybe a chance of finding a peace in knowing he is aware that he hurt.

I’m hopeful, that there are men in cases who truly aren’t aware of what their actions did and hearing its impact would change something towards the positive. Also giving survivors a sane option that could at least see their attacker forced into counselling, or covering medical, medication or counselling costs to the victim. Just a thought.