10 Things I Learned Carpooling with President Nelson:

Derek Westra
Dec 20, 2018 · 9 min read

The past couple months I’ve carpooled into work every day with President Russell M. Nelson. We both work in downtown Salt Lake City, and I figured, “hey, what better way to start off each day, than driving with the prophet for 35 minutes?” To be honest, he did most of the talking — okay, he did all of the talking.

I guess more accurately, I accepted a challenge to listen to all of President Nelson’s 75 General Conference addresses from 1984 to 2018 by the end of the year. So technically, our carpool was less of a conversation, but conversely a consistent commuting conference communication challenge. That, my friend, is called alliteration. It’s one of the many things I picked up, spending 17 hours with the practically poetic prose of our prophet coming through my AirPods.

This was a fun, and an inspiring experience. I learned a ton about this amazing man. It’s impossible to limit my learnings to only ten observations, so I encourage you to take the challenge yourself for the full experience, but I’ll give you the cliff-notes version in reverse order, #10 through #1.

Carpooling with him, I learned that President Nelson:

#10: Writes hymns.

How cool is that?!

Twice, then Elder Nelson has written a hymn that was sung by the Tabernacle Choir in General Conference (once after his talk, and the other time — in his 2003 address Sweet Power of Prayer — during his talk). In that instance, Elder Nelson with eyes closed, ended the song at the pulpit simply: “in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.” He did this to personify the scripture …”the song of the righteous is a prayer unto me.”

His hymn, “Our Prayer to Thee” was sung again in the most recent conference. President Nelson has perfect pitch and loves music, so it is no surprise that he requested the help of the choir to communicate his praise to the Lord.

#9: Uses props at the pulpit.

Growing up a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I was taught that we should not use props or object lessons in sacrament meeting addresses. I always assumed that counsel extended to General Conference addresses, but I guess I was wrong.

At the beginning of his 1997 address Endure and Be Lifted Up, Elder Nelson uses a spool of thread, a card, tissue paper and a pin to teach an object lesson. He blows into the spool for as long as he can without using his hands to show that the card sticks to the spool as long as he has breath. I have never seen anyone do anything like this in General Conference.

While the object lesson was cool, informative, and different, what this really taught me is that our culture may prevent us from doing certain things — and that culture sometimes needs to be challenged.

#8: Knows how to receive revelation.

President Nelson talks often about receiving revelation. One of my favorite examples was when he describes how he performed exploratory surgery on a man (at the man’s request) but literally did not know what to do. He explains what happened next:

“Then a picture came vividly to my mind, showing how stitches could be placed — to make a pleat here and a tuck there — to accomplish the desired objective. I still remember that mental image — complete with dotted lines where sutures should be placed. The repair was completed as diagrammed in my mind. We tested the valve and found the leak to be reduced remarkably. My assistant said, ‘It’s a miracle.’”

In 2018, after becoming President of the Church, President Nelson gave a talk called “Revelation for the Church, Revelation for Our Lives,” where he teaches the steps necessary to receive revelation. I have studied this pattern many times attempting to learn the basics of a process the prophet has perfected.

#7: Loves analyzing words and numbers.

President Nelson frequently analyzes the meaning of important words — often using many languages to derive important findings. Here is an example from his 1996 Address The Atonement.

“Let us now ponder the deep meaning of the word atonement. In the English language, the components are at-one-ment, suggesting that a person is at one with another. Other languages employ words that connote either expiation or reconciliation. Expiation means “to atone for.” Reconciliation comes from Latin roots re, meaning “again”; con, meaning “with”; and sella, meaning “seat.” Reconciliation, therefore, literally means “to sit again with.””

He also loves numbers and frequently speaks to how often words and phrases are used in various books of scripture. For example, from the same talk:

“While the words atone or atonement, in any of their forms, appear only once in the King James translation of the New Testament, they appear 35 times in the Book of Mormon.”

From his 1990 address Thus Shall My Church Be Called, he helps us understand the meaning of the word “saint.”

“The word Christian appears in only three verses of the King James Version of the Bible. One verse describes the historical fact that “disciples were called Christians first in Antioch;” another quotes a sarcastic nonbeliever, King Agrippa; and the third indicates that one known as “a Christian” must be prepared to suffer. In contrast, the term saint (or saints) appears in thirty-six verses of the Old Testament and in sixty-two verses of the New Testament.”

As a fan of words, numbers, and analysis, I have always appreciated this approach to studying the gospel.

#6: Uses alliteration.

There are adequate instances of impressive alliteration I observed throughout this educational experience. You may critique that last sentence as not appropriately alliterative because the words don’t begin with the same letter — but the definition of alliteration extends to sounds, not just the beginning letter.

President Nelson uses it this way, and it can be pretty profound when principles are punctuated by such precise pronunciation.

#5: Is uniquely prepared to do what he is doing.

I believe it is no coincidence that the President of the restored church of Jesus Christ at this time is a heart surgeon. Russell Nelson is a pioneer. He made a name for himself by challenging the status quo, doing things differently, experimenting, and learning.

For example, just this year we have seen the Church: eliminate one-third of Sunday meetings, eliminate one-fifth of General Conference meetings, tackle a correction of the name of the Church, change the 100-year relationship with the Boy Scouts of America, introduce a new curriculum, initiate a global ministry tour, hold a Church conference in a major-league ball-park, and announce more temples than ever before. And if this weren’t enough, our prophet recently said “Wait till next year, and then the next year. Eat your vitamin pills. Get some rest. It’s going to be exciting.”

President Nelson has been prepared throughout his life to enact change, and we are the beneficiaries of his training.

#4: Is acquainted with death.

Our prophet is well-acquainted with life and with death. He even gave a talk devoted to the subject, called Doors of Death. His profession as a cardiac surgeon has the consequence of lives saved and lives lost. Due to the many deaths President Nelson witnesses in his career, he was even invited to participate in a book on the topic of experiences beyond the veil (which he declined — not for lack of experience with the subject, but because it was too sacred to discuss).

In his General Conference address A Plea To My Sisters — Elder Nelson speaks of the pain and difficulty of witnessing the unexpected end of life. President Nelson lost his dear wife Dantzel unexpectedly and described his emotional pain as “immobilizing.” He lost his daughter Emily to cancer when she was just 37 years old. He said, “If I had the power of resurrection, I would have been tempted to bring them back.”

President Nelson has noted that he personally knew 10 of the 16 previous Presidents of the Church — and has had the experience of losing them all (along with many other family and friends). In speaking of death, President Nelson often describes it as a generous gift from God.

“Think of the alternative. If all sixty-nine billion people who have ever lived on earth were still here, imagine the traffic jam! And we could own virtually nothing and scarcely make any responsible decisions.

Scriptures teach that death is essential to happiness: “Now behold, it was not expedient that man should be reclaimed from this temporal death, for that would destroy the great plan of happiness.”

#3: Loves his family.

While I have recently focused on conference addresses from Russell M. Nelson, I’ve spent several years listening to talks from other general authorities and general officers of the Church. In that time, I have never known someone to speak as frequently about their family as President Nelson.

His love for his family is clear, and his affection is obvious. From his parents, to his late wife Dantzel, to his wife Wendy, to his children and grandchildren — all of them are spoken of highly with love and admiration and respect.

#2: Is consistent.

Ahem…not to brag, but I had perfect attendance throughout my four years of High School. I thought that was impressive consistency until I decided to listen to all of these General Conference talks in succession. Not only did President Nelson not miss a single conference for any reason, but he is also the most consistent speaker in terms of length of address, and topics. There are four “divinely appointed responsibilities of the Church:” Helping to live the gospel of Jesus Christ, gather Israel through preaching the gospel, redeeming the dead through family history and temple work, and caring for the poor and needy. President Nelson has spoken about all of these topics and about every other gospel topic throughout his 75 addresses. His talks are almost always exactly the same length (to the minute). As a fan of statistics, I wondered if this was the case for all speakers — I checked and it certainly is not.

This consistency is a part of who he is. When President Nelson communicated a correction about the name of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, it came as a surprise to many (including me) — but in actuality, he spoke about this same issue in 1990 in an address called Thus Shall My Church Be Called.

#1: Loves Jesus.

My number one finding, after hearing 75 General Conference addresses, given over 34 years, is that this man personally knows and loves his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. As I began this exercise, I wondered “how many of these talks will specifically devote time to speaking about the Savior?” The answer is all of them. 100 percent of the addresses President Nelson has written and delivered speak of the Savior and testify of Him.

I’ve learned many things in the 17 hours I’ve spent with President Nelson’s voice streaming through my headphones as I battled traffic on my way to work each day. He is a great man. I’ve enjoyed “carpooling” with him and getting to know him better by studying his remarks over the past three decades.

Of all of his many qualities and attributes, his best quality (in my opinion) is his love for the Savior Jesus Christ and his devotion to Him.

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