“Character Defects” How many do you have?
Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:
Character Defects How many do you have?
Character Defects are negative ways we think, feel and behave. Whenever I talk about character defects, the first reaction I get is “There is nothing wrong with me!!”, “How dare you, I’m not broken!!!”. Really everyone has character defects or flaws both in and not in addiction and most people function well enough with them, but do you want them?
People in recovery from addiction, though cannot afford to harbor character defects as they can be huge relapse triggers. It is up to each individual to identify which defects are the most risk to them. Mine where negative thinking, paranoia, self-condemnation, guilt, procrastination, judgment and low self-esteem.
To this day I still suffer from these and other character defects, but I am aware of them, thus they are not as intense as they used to be. This has not just happened by osmosis, I have had to put in a hell of a lot of self-development, self-awareness & self-acceptance. I’m nearly 15 years sober and am only really scratching the surface of who I am and I will probably go to the grave, still with questions. We all will.
I continue to harbor character defects but I accept this and am comfortable with it as I know that I am on a journey, every minute of every day.
There are loads of character defects and if you Google character flaws or defects, you will find a huge array of apps and sites that cover this. I am not going to cover each defect individually, as I will cover them in my “Recovery from Addiction Series”
Here are the defects of character from Alcoholics Anonymous.
Lying, Evasiveness, Dishonesty
False pride, Phoniness, Denial
Criticizing, Loose Talk, Gossip
With this awareness and acceptance of my character defects, I do not have to fear them anymore. This has given me great freedom to grow in life. I have taken to blogging and second career online, which is a challenge for me, but I will persevere and as I do, I feel stronger and happier for doing it.
My next article is on Irrational Beliefs, stay tuned.
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