7 Things To Do To Make Her Act Right
Let’s recap: You’ve been dating this female for a while now. When you first got together, you couldn’t stay away from each other. Late night phone calls:
“You hang up.”
“No, YOU hang up first.”
Remember when you first got together, and she couldn’t keep her hands off of you? She practically threw the panties at you anytime you wanted. Your girl was a regular porn star, but not anymore. Things have changed. You argue way more than you used to. She needs her ‘space’ these days, which usually entails going out with her girlfriends more often than ever before; of course 9 times out of 10, she ain’t just hanging out with the girls all those nights.
Now when you call, your calls are no longer a priority. You can’t seem to figure out what’s happening. The more you try and spend more time with her, the nicer and more understanding you try to be, the worse her behavior towards you gets. Moreover, let’s not even talk about sex; sex is a thing of the past, unless of course, she wants it. Only then, can you expect to get some from her.
I know it seems confusing, and the frustration is beyond belief right now, but all is not lost. What you’re experiencing is a classic case of your girl reacting to Female Buyer’s Remorse. This is the feeling a woman gets when the Man she thought she had starts turning into a wuss, but do not despair; there is a remedy!
When your girl starts acting up, there are some very specific things you can do to reposition yourself to be ‘the man’ again.
1. Stop wallowing in self-pity.
It isn’t sexy. Not only is it not sexy, but it’s also weak, soft, and girlish behavior that a man has no business participating in. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, bemoaning your fate. Get back on your feet. Read some good self-help literature. Check out some of the dating advice websites for men. Get your mind back into a place where you start feeling confident again.
2. Stop acting so possessive and clingy!
You don’t own a woman. She’s free to come and go as she pleases. The more you try to possess her, the more she’ll slip through your fingers, just like holding water; you can only hold water with an open hand; trying to hold it tight will cause you to lose it. Stop with all of the phone checks whenever she goes out with her friends or family; relax; have confidence in your own game. Know that you can only predict and manipulate her behavior, you can’t directly control it. Love doesn’t shut the door; it always leaves it open.
3. Avoid books, movies, and songs for women.
Books like Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, Think like A Man, Act Like A Woman, and He’s Just Not That Into You are for women, and will do absolutely nothing to help out your situation. You need to read some good masculine books geared towards strengthening your manhood. Books like: The Art of Mackin, The Mack Within, and Double Your Dating; of course there are many others, but these should be enough to get you started. Also, stay away from movies like Jerry McGuire, Sleepless In Seattle, Along Came Polly, and stay away from Ne-Yo, John Legend, Anthony Hamilton, or any other heartbreak artists. Go out and rent Troy, Gladiator, 300, and other manly movies. The only way to stay strong in a time like this is to surround yourself with symbols of strength. Otherwise, you’ll fall off the wagon and become a simp again.
4. Go out and meet at least 10 different hot women; preferably women hotter than your girl.
You don’t necessarily need to exchange numbers with them; just walk up and start conversations with them. A simple “Hello.” to the hot girl you see every morning at the Starbucks, a confident “Hey, what’s up.” to the good looking cashier at the Walmart. Just start speaking to different women in a fun, flirty way; have fun with it.
The purpose of doing this isn’t to start cheating on your girl; it’s to build your confidence level back up again. It’s amazing how having a good looking woman genuinely smile at you can turbo charge your level of self-confidence.
5. Stop being so available to her.
Restrict her access to you. Like the saying goes, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” When she calls, ignore her sometimes. Don’t answer. Don’t call back for a day or so. Leave her imagination wondering where, what, and whom you may be spending your time with; it’ll drive her crazy, the thought of you being with some other female, but a little jealousy is good for a relationship, so long as it’s you making her jealous. Most guys make the mistake of spending way too much time with their girlfriends. It’s a huge mistake to give up your own life to become a part of hers. Women want men who are challenging and exciting. They’re looking for men who have rich, interesting lives of their own. Most women, secretly, want a man whose life is so interesting apart from her, that it’ll make her willing to forsake her life to become a part of his.
Start making yourself seem too busy to be bothered with her. Reconnect with some of your guy friends you use to hang out with before you turned wuss. Re-engage with your own interests and passions. If you’re into art, enroll into an art class. If you’re into church, enroll in a Bible study course. Do something to better yourself, and don’t do it in the hopes of pleasing your lady; do it because it’s good for YOU. At the end of the day, life is all about you bettering yourself, so you can better the world.
You have to give off the impression that your life has taken a turn for the better since she started acting up; a turn that you readily welcome. Go on the offensive, and put her on the defensive. Wait a day, or so, before you return her calls or texts. Discipline yourself not to call her at all for a while, and when you do finally decide to take her call, be as nonchalant about it as possible. Example:
“Where have you been? Why haven’t you been answering your phone?”
“My bad. I’ve been really busy these past few weeks. I’ve barely been getting any decent sleep.”
“Busy, huh? I bet! Busy doing what?”
“Nothing you’d be interested in. I just have a lot going on these days. That’s all. What’s with the interrogation?”
“You weren’t answering your phone. I left you message after message, text after text. I was getting worried.”
“I appreciate that, thanks, but no need to worry; I’m cool. Listen, I need to run and take care of something; can I hit you back later?”
“Where are you going?”
*Laughs it off*
“To take care of something; you really should consider applying for the FBI.”
“Bye, and you better call me, hello? Hello?!”
Get the point?
6. Stop trying to have sex with her.
This is a big one. Women seem to be under the illusion that what’s between their legs is better than gold. They’ve gotten this impression from men like you. Never — under any circumstance — should you ever beg a woman to have sex with her; doing so places you in an utterly vulnerable position; it hands her ALL the power in the relationship and places you in a subservient role. Begging for sex is the beginning of the end for your relationship.
Understand, when a woman withholds sex from you, she’s attempting to train you. It’s just like training a wild animal. Some trainers get wild animals to comply by withholding food from them. The starved animal is then willing to do whatever is necessary to eat: sit, stay, roll over, and whatever; this is no different. She’s trying to see if you are easily controllable. If you cave into this ‘test’ by becoming addicted to her body, she’ll always know exactly how to play you. You’ll cease being a challenge to her and become boring and predictable.
Women have been taught to use their vaginas to get what they want; all women attempt to do this at some time or another. You have to let your woman know upfront that you will not be made a slave through her holding back sex. Again, go on the offensive; you have to go cold turkey on the sex thing. It’s not about being religious; it’s about learning how to control yourself sexually, so you don’t become easy to control through sex. Control your sexual desires or some woman will control you through your sexual desires.
Let her know that sex is the least of your worries; you don’t do this by telling her; telling her, only makes you sound like you’re bluffing. Don’t tell her with your mouth; tell her with your actions by always having other options available. When you know you have other options, you don’t easily fall for the sex trap. If she stops having sex with you, you don’t sweat it because you know a female across town that will, and you don’t have to follow up on stepping outside the bounds of your relationship. Just knowing you have other options will give you the confidence you need not to become her sex-slave. You won’t be so pressed for sex. In fact, you’ll exhibit a more laidback attitude to the point where she’ll automatically think you have another woman who’s supplying your needs in this area, and that’s a good thing. It’ll keep her on her toes. Following these points will keep her thinking that you have females waiting in line for her to mess up.
7. Be challenging.
If your woman starts acting up on you, it’s for one main, glaring reason: you’ve ceased being a challenge to her. Women are attracted to men who are challenging and hard to get. It’s the whole cat/string theory; take a string and wiggle it in front of a cat — and as long as you keep the string just out of the cat’s reach — the cat goes wild trying to get it. However, the minute you lay the string down in front of the cat, it sniffs it, turns, and walks away.
Women, too, like a good chase; give her one; start by doing the things above. It’s a known fact among dudes that are good with women: Females want a man they cannot tame; the easier you are for her to master, the less she will want you. That’s why a woman will rarely stay with a man who just gives himself to her without putting up a fight. She needs that challenge of the chase to keep herself emotionally engaged in the relationship. Start making her chase you again.
These are just a few of the things you can start doing to get your game back on track immediately. If all else fails, and the relationship is beyond redemption, move on and live to love another day. You can’t change a person’s behavior; all you can do is manipulate and predict it. By doing the things above, you will be able to shape her behavior to where it’s more favorable for you.
Knowledge is, indeed, power, but only if you use it — until then, it’s just another form of entertainment. -Mack Major
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Originally published at worldlygame.blogspot.com.