My theory about this is that when men say this, it signifies they’re uncomfortable with how culture is changing and that they’re afraid of losing power, although they may not be consciously aware of that. Women, people of color, and LGBTQ communities have pressed the fast forward button on social change since the early 60’s and have been redefining what power is.
My theory about this is that when men say this, it signifies they’re uncomfortable with how culture…
Shannon Coulter
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I agree with the article’s main point as I understand it (that the well-established concept of microagressions occur even in our increasingly common interactions with electronic systems and that it is to society’s detriment if we ignore them). In that spirit, I’d like to point out a very common and often unchallenged microagression in your comment, which sets up a dichotomy between ‘men’ and ‘women, people of color, and LGBT communities’. Of course, I understand what you mean, but gay men are also ‘men’. Placing us within a separate category only encourages the idea that there are (real, heterosexual) Men and then there are (kind of, sort of) men like us.

This type of microagression is found in many settings, but is surprisingly common in fora where it should be least expected, such as in this discussion. When challenged on statements such as ‘men always [insert stereotypical straight male activity here]’, even the most progressive among us often reply ‘I mean straight men, of course’, with the microagressive addendum ‘of course’ tacked on just to emphasize that the term ‘men’ doesn’t include us silly faggots.

I am fairly sure this is not how you meant your comment to be understood. I also inadvertently commit microagressions from time to time. No offense has been taken, as I long ago learned to ignore this sort of thing. However, in the spirit of the article, I thought it worthy of note.

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