No one called you a joke. He called the thesis of the article a joke. You are not this article. Criticizing this article is not the same as making a critique of you. You are not your work. You are a human being. Some of your ideas are good. Some are bad. Just like the rest of us.
And even if he had, yes, anyone of any gender who wants to be part of a meaningful discourse should absolutely not react in such a knee jerk fashion. We’ve all been guilty of it, but fortunately most of us do so when the spotlight isn’t on us. I’m sorry you don’t have that luxury here.