No News Is Good News, Right?

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Like many people (possibly more than most of us would care to admit), I spend a fair amount of time on social media platforms. While some of us are super in tune with the latest Snapchat filters or who has the most Instagram followers, I genuinely prefer to peruse the platform with no limits: Facebook.

Sure, while people hate Facebook and the behemoth of all things it has since become, we can’t deny how this medium has given us the opportunity to peer into the lives of others all at the cost of little to no effort. All it takes is a friend request and magically you adjacently get to share in the joys of new jobs, new babies and new accessories. A mere click of “accept” gives you access to a person’s vacation, their first night out in months (See: #parenting See also: #responsibilities) or even a lovingly prepared meal at home.

Social media is totally for good things, right?

I mean, who wants to discuss how terrible their most recent breakup was online? Who would want to invite others into the misery of the highs and lows of depression or emotional disturbance? Who would care to give real feedback to the person trying to find their way in life but lacks a solid network of people to give them a helping hand?

In all sincerity, I used to think that people who kept a lot of their personal lives from social media were just as bad as people who loudly proclaimed how they didn’t own a television. As if somehow, their resistance to post anything about their lives to the masses made them more enlightened, smarter or less accessible.

Nowadays, I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad idea to keep some things to yourself. However, I’m also a person that shares experiences and information because I genuinely like to share great findings with people. I’m also a firm believer in HELPING other people. New farmer’s market? Meeting at City Hall? Free film screening? A thoughtful question about something that may be bothering me? I share it with people!

Needing help or reaching out to the masses for ideas while sharing a challenging experience of your own? I think it’s phenomenal! What is the reasoning behind connecting with people if you don’t have anything to learn from them or to share (sometimes inadvertently) with them?

There comes a point when we have to realize that interacting with others isn’t necessarily “Telling all of your business.” While I’m not knocking people who are naturally private about their goings on, just know that I find you suspect for “lurking” but rarely contributing your own thoughts, feelings or ideas into your chosen community.

Contrary to popular belief, it’s not a bad thing to tell people what you’re up to. While we all don’t need the intimate details of what you had for breakfast or how much liquor you consumed, you’d be surprised at how valuable of a resource your experience is to a person who may be going through a tough time. Be it guidance, support or inspiration — remember that your voice, your wisdom, your challenges or your courage could be a just the life-changing moment for someone else.