Yes, but handmaids are forced to wear dresses, potentially carry children, and so far all have been referred to as women. Men and non-binary people can also wear dresses and carry children, but overall being a handmaid is a very gendered space that would feel even more oppressive to someone who does not identify as a woman — not that anyone’s having a great time being oppressed even while identifying as a woman. Essentially, it’s similar to how Ofglen and Offred are both oppressed, but Ofglen has an extra layer of oppression due to her sexual identity. Again, I don’t know how helpful this is since I think you’re reading the sentence differently— rape is not “okay” for women to experience. It is simply an extra trauma to be seen as a woman when you’re not, and to then to experience oppression and sexual violence on top of that. Maybe you don’t see being a handmaid as being viewed as a woman? My take of the show is that handmaids are so gendered as women, and so to not fit into that gender identity would be additionally traumatizing.