You Can’t Do It Alone
Looking back on my life at the ripe old age of 22, there have been so many ups and downs to getting where I am at in my life currently. I’m grateful for the opportunities provided to me but also reflect on the various decisions that pushed me to where I am today.
Interestingly enough, when I think about my life, I think about one of the most important things I would tell my younger self that definitively would’ve changed my outcomes for the better, the first thing that comes to mind is that you can’t do it alone. By not “doing it alone” I mean that you need to break out of your shell and find a tribe that’s moving in the direction that you’re moving in.
There are so many individuals on this Earth, with so many different perspectives, backgrounds, and information that can change your life knowingly and unknowingly; but you can’t get this information if you don’t get out there and start interacting and networking with like-minded people.
As cliche as it sounds, your network is quite literally your net worth. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Think about how people get accepted to those awesome jobs that seem impossible to find, those jobs aren’t posted on LinkedIn or Indeed, that person was referred by their friend that works somewhere and they end up getting interviews without going through the maze of modern-day job applications, leading them to grab the position. This concept applies to every aspect of life including getting access to events, nightclubs/bars, pieces of clothing, food items, you name it.
Not doing it alone, even ties into dating life. A very highlighted topic and affects plenty of people my age currently. It seems like a lot of people don’t know where or how to meet their significant other, and that’s understandable. Though when you break down the issue, you realize that a lot of people meet their partner through people they already know, through a sort of social proof concept. People in those circles can validate your qualities and help you interact with a potential partner. So having that network of people allows you to streamline the process of meeting people with similar interests and mindsets.
Additionally, you’ll have people to keep you in check and you can bounce ideas off of. When you’re only working alone you don’t know when you’re off or if you should be doing things differently. You’re just living in an echo chamber, which isn’t beneficial to your growth.
The act of building your network and working with others definitely does not come easy for a lot of people and that’s okay. In life, some people are born with the aptitude for an ability and others have to work to build that skill set up. It doesn’t matter how you start but how you finish. Taking consistent steps to move towards where you want to be is all that matters.
Too often we get caught up in the idea that we have to get there by ourselves to make the journey worthwhile, but it just isn’t true. Life was meant to be enjoyed with others, humans literally were not meant to be alone. Being alone too much can lead to issues that affect our daily lives and we don’t even realize.
Though don’t get me wrong, don’t force yourself to hang out with and interact with people who are not moving in the direction you are going, that will derail you from the path you are meant to follow.
On the contrary, realize it will be hit and miss. It may seem impossible that you’ll ever meet a great group to have in your network, but when you do you’ll be set up for a lifetime. Let’s change our mindsets to be more positive and attract what we want in life.
Let’s understand that we can’t do it alone and that we become the best versions of ourselves with the right circle surrounding us.