Life is hard but a helmet won’t help you

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Photo by Gabrielle Audu on Unsplash
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When things in your life get difficult or challenging, what do you do? Do you knuckle down and tell yourself that you’re just going to battle through it? Do you ask for help from a friend or mentor? Do you read a book or blog or listen to a podcast or watch a video to try and figure out how to overcome it?

There’s lots of options for ways to get through difficulties and challenges. But you know what our biggest obstacle is? Ourselves.

There’s a part of your brain that tells you you can’t or it’s impossible or it…


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You got off work late. Your boss made you stay an hour after you were supposed to be off. And you’d promised your kids that you’d be able to pick them up on time so you can take them to their sports game tonight.

But you can’t because you’re already running late. And now you’ve got to sit in traffic for another hour. Your spouse is going to be really upset with you when you get home. Because it’s just another example of you letting them down.

There’s already a laundry list of things you don’t feel like you’re getting right. Not to mention the stress at work. Ongoing issues with your boss. Performance reviews and reports that are due. Will you ever get on the other side of this?

This is a situation that’s fairly common. Home tension coupled with work tension. It…


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You love your job. It’s what brings home the bacon for you and your family.

You find fulfillment, purpose, and satisfaction with the work you do. Best of all is that you work with really great people who understand you and value your contribution.

Last year you got a promotion and a raise for your contributions to the company. Things were really on the up and up.

But then dramatic and unexpected happened. Now your co-workers and even your boss are not as enthused about you as they were only a few months ago.

And worst still is, you have no idea what to do about it.

It’s gotten so bad that yesterday…


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One of the big life lessons I’ve learned over the past two years has been about identity. Fighting against fear and insecurity has been a deep learning experience.

Who you are is your choice, not some act of fate or the result of what happens to you. Who you are is not just the way you were born.

Which might seem like an odd subject, but it’s a very important piece of the work we do to be successful in our lives.

As I’ve done a lot of research and connecting with people on this subject for my book Be…


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When you hear someone say, “It was worth it,” what are they really saying?

Is that a matter of cost, of value, of quality, of getting the most out of a situation?

Or all of the above?

If you can apply the “it was worth it” label to a thing or object, is that also true for people too?

The cost of the self-worth battle we all face

I wonder about this a lot because self-worth is a struggle for most of us. …


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We spend our youth and adulthood finding our people. Or trying to. It’s our desire to have people in our lives who push us to our best.

This is how you level up and become the best version of yourself. But is it possible to grow if those same friends hold you back?

**Just a note: This post isn’t a knock against anyone. I’ve not always had great friendships. Fostering the kind of relationships that bring you growth is what this post is all about.

Friends are one of the sources of your biggest growth potential

We seek people who will love us no matter what. People who see our weirdness…


You’re Not Supposed To Do It On Your Own To Succeed In Life

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U2’s hit song “Sometimes You Can’t Make It On Your Own” is pretty accurate. Solo works if your first name is Han, but rarely anywhere else. Truly successful people, it turns out, don’t try to do it all on their own.

You’re trying to make magic happen in your business. You’re trying to figure out how to balance your personal life. And doing it all while flying solo (on your own), you’re often struggling.

There’s a reason why you’re continuing to deal with the same obstacles, challenges…


Scene from Rocky III

Two former boxing champions stand on the beach just after sunrise. One is sweating and panting slightly. He just sprinted 100 yards in a foot race and won. He’s also flabbergasted. His partner, the other boxer is several yards behind, not sprinting. He’s not even running. He gave up and is walking up the beach towards a group of trainers.

“Why is he even here? Why did he come all this way down here if he’s just going to quit? Every day we’ve been here it’s the same thing. He acts like he’s trying but he’s…


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Do you believe that you’re worth fighting for? When you’ve experienced heartbreak, it doesn’t feel that way at all. Typically you experience such gut-wrenching pain that you feel worthless, not good enough, and completely broken.

To hear someone tell you that you actually are worthy feels like a lie. How can that be true? Someone you had loved with all of your heart, and who told you that they loved you back, suddenly walked away. Or was taken from you.

The relationship that was your favorite thing in the world is no more. …


Validation Won’t Save You.

How does that statement sit with you? We’re naturally inclined to want the validation of others. It’s why so many of us find ourselves seeking out acceptance, approval, and validation. So we won’t feel alone. So we can feel better about ourselves.

It turns into us wanting someone else to save us from ourselves. Or save us from our fear that we’re worth it. That we’re worth fighting for.

Do you believe that you’re worth fighting for?

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When you’ve experienced heartbreak, it doesn’t feel that way at all. Typically you experience such gut-wrenching pain that you feel worthless, not good enough, and completely broken.

So to hear someone…

D Grant Smith

[The Growth Farmer]Cultivate your best life through planting love in your heart & mind garden. New book is Be Solid at https://dgrantsmith.com/books

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