Why I fail to quit smoking ?

Pretty good Sunday here, woke up at 8 still not too late. Switched on my phone after getting a couple of caffeine shots. Tuned on TED to name the day as “Learning Sunday”. Got the first three videos lined up based on Sex and Porn, there is a difference. And it seems I would name this day as “Sexual Enlightenment Sunday”

In one of the videos

One of the TED’s best. Here Ran, the speaker, made me to commit myself to stop watching porn, for real. He explained in depth how we usually ignore the back-end of this industry while taking pleasure from the front-end and while being the consumer how we are running this industry(sic). I quit.

The moment I decided to quit, really I asked myself, How can you commit to it so easily while you never lived your commitment to more personal issues like quiting smoke, reading a book a week, charity, personal development and finding a great career in one month? How can I leave this habit in 15 minutes which I have been keeping for more than a decade?

And that left me with a simple answer which have been into my curiosity every time I failed to keep a promise I make to myself.

We all have such habits/bad habits which we wall want to get rid of, Could be smoking, drinking, stalking the ex, gossiping, negative mindset, complaining etc etc.

and

We take a vow after getting some motivation from a peer or video or an article over the internet, to quit whatever habit bothering our life and hindering our progress. Few days, sometimes weeks and months, of sunny attitude and commitment then one slippery thought to take us back into the loop of that addictive behavior. It takes just one moment of temptation to take a look at the street we have left weeks ago, the memories of pleasures add fuel to it and ultimately we are back to square one with a small action.

But still I managed to quit many of the habits, how so?

It’s not the habit and its effect but who it effects.

I successfully managed to quit habits like anger, eating meat, rash driving, criticizing and watching porn. And not able to quit smoke, drink, procrastination and worrying.

Every habit impact someone in good or bad way. Anger affects others as well as ourselves, meat industry not good for animals, rash driving danger to all, reading great for mental development, meditation awesome for the mind, flirting good for tickles and so on.

Though we human are negative-bias by default but that doesn’t mean we like to see someone crying or dying. We connect with other’s emotions and this is why we forward a helping hand to strangers and even animals when we see them in need of support.

So, if we think deep about our habit and who does it impact then we make a much better decision if its really we need to stop doing or carry on if it doesn’t impact anyone. Say, you are obsessed about your ex and still stalk her/him sometime in temptation but then there are the moments when you analyse how you are creating mess in somebody’s life just because you can’t get over it, you stop, a long breath of awakening, step back and back to home with a sense of awareness about your decision. And that’s other thing how we slip back to that temptation street and looking for that momentary pleasure.

This is why it was easy for me to quit meat, rash driving, anger and such habits because I found those more harmful to others along with me.

But why quitting the smoke fails?

The man got no respect for self

Becz I never gave that importance and respect to this body, in consistence manner I am more busy in exchanging the social respects here and there.

For the same reason we fail to keep our fitness goals as its just us who is going to impact if we go fit or unfit and its not going to affect others. So we have this soft agreement with ourselves “We are friends, right? and friends are cool about what they are”. Our body and we have a friendly and compromising attitude with ourselves to make or break the promise anytime we want. We lie a lot to ourselves. :)

Its like seeing your father having a back pain and telling him to take all cures and precautions but giving your own back pain a f word, we care about others more than ourselves.

So how to quit?

hmmm ..