Why getting married early is a bad idea
Getting married in early twenties is quite common in India. I’m not against the people who do get married in their early 20s. But if you are in your mid 20s and considering marriage, here is a piece of advice. DON’T.
Mid twenties are basically an extension of your teenage years. You’re hardly a grown up. You would hardly have taken any major decisions in your life. Twenties are for thinking for your own, choosing your career, making mistakes, learning your preferences, having fun.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against the constitution of marriage. I would be the first one to cry when I see happy endings. I consider myself a romantic. Then why do I think early marriage is such a bad idea?
- You’re practically a child. Coming out of college, hardly any person knows what to do with his/her life. Hell, some are confused about what’s going on with his/her life or about life itself. Not the right time to start a marriage.
- You don’t know what you’re getting into. No, marriage is not as easy as it is depicted in movies. There are responsibilities. Your choices affect lives of other people. It’s just too much to take in, specially if you married thinking you’re having a fairy tale ending.
- Career. Think about what you want to do in your life. You’re hardly clear about your goals when suddenly there are the goals and aspirations of another person to be taken into consideration.
- Now comes the fun part. It’s not that you won’t have fun after marriage. You shall. But how long does the “fun” phase last? A year or two? What after that. This is a tricky phase where you settle firmly into the marriage and get a good view of how your life is going to be for the greater part of the rest of your life. To handle the stability, it requires patience, understanding, maturity. Not the virtues we commonly see in twenty year old.
- You’ll see your friends and foes getting married every other day. If you want to marry just because everyone is, or because you’re just bored, trust me, this is the worst possible reason to get into a marriage.
Rather than getting married and “settling down” there are so many things to do. Take that solo trip, visit a new country, learn to live alone, meet new people, fall in love, fall out of love, have your heart broken, have it ment, learn a new art, go skydiving, and in the process find yourself. And then go on and get married!