But What If I Suck At It?
What if you only what-if’ed the best possible outcome?
The following is my conversation with a Senior High School Student today. Could be the same advice for anybody — young, old, male, female, doesn’t matter.
Student: “I really want to be an Interior Designer but, I don’t know, I might not.”
Me: “Why not?”
“I don’t know… I mean… what if I study that and then I suck at it?”
“What if you’re really good at it?”
“Well, I mean, I guess that’s what I would hope for.”
“Let me tell you something about ‘what if’. ‘What if’ only happens when you are worried about tomorrow. Or the next day. Or the one after that. If you spend too much time in FEAR — False Expectations, that’s what the FE in fear stands for — you don’t spend enough time in NOW. Which is where opportunities exist. You follow?”
“Yea. That makes sense.”
“Good. So from now on, WHAT IF you only ‘what if’ed’ the BEST possible outcome?
WHAT IF you trusted yourself enough to know that even if the outcome isn’t exactly what you want it to be TODAY, the process will bring you opportunities to find the outcome you want? Do you think that would work?”
“Yep. I do. Because most people stop at ‘what if?’” Because going takes courage and determination and the mental ability to accept that you’re going to fail from time to time and that’s not even just okay, it’s better than okay, it’s awesome. So… do you still want to be an Interior Designer?”
“What if you’re really good it?”
“That would be awesome.”
“What if you suck at it?”
“That would be awesome, too.”
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