SADNESS is my Friend now

‘‘Sadness doesn’t go away so easily, it basically stays forever’’

We all have our ups and downs, we all get depressed, stressed or frustrated sometimes but as a child I don’t remember feeling that way, I’ve never fully understood the true meaning of Sadness. Now I know what I didn’t know back then. I’ve learned that the key to your happiness is to accept sadness as your friend and not your enemy. I’ve accepted sadness and I’m happy to have done so. It’s okay to be upset sometimes. And it’s completely okay if you want to be left alone, sometimes solitude is necessary in order to make yourself feel better. Sadness is one of the “six basic emotions” and it’s a normal experience although to some it may seem dark and dreary.


There are times when you need sadness and loneliness in your heart, we are human beings, we don’t have to pretend life is always beautiful, because it’s not, sometimes it can be very cruel and ugly. What I’m trying to say is you should embrace your sadness, be friends with it, face it and don’t fight it. The more you fight it, the more it will destroy you, just like fear. I used to be so afraid of the dark, as a kid I would imagine scary monsters creeping in the dark and I was too scared to turn off the lights or go outside at night. I was living in fear of something imaginary. But now, I’ve learned to face the dark and all I can say is I’m not afraid of it anymore. I have faced it and I have won. Fear, sadness and loneliness are real emotions and sometimes too difficult to handle but they’re part of our daily lives. I think sadness plays an important role in our lives and it shouldn’t be excluded or seen as a bad thing. There are days when you miss something so bad and you just want everything to be the same as it was before.


For example, you miss your childhood or your old friends or you just miss your previous life. Memories will help you get back to those things and sometimes it can cause you emotional pain and sorrow. But they’re worth remembering. I’m very melancholic as a person, it’s just the way I am. I think sad people have this tendency to create Art. I personally love drawing, writing and reading. I’m an Art Lover and I think that Art itself is Melancholy.

“I don’t think all writers are sad, she said.
 I think it’s the other way around — all sad people write.” ~ Lang Leav

Whenever I feel sad I just sit down and create. I draw or write whatever comes to my mind. I remember my first poem, I was thirteen when I wrote it. And since then, I write. I write because I love written feelings. I write because I am sad. The pain that I feel turns into something beautiful, it turns to ART. My first poem was very religious, though I don’t consider myself religious anymore, I believe in God and a lot of other beautiful things such as love, kindness, freedom, nature, I guess I’m Spiritual. As I child I used to believe in everything and knew absolutely nothing. Let’s say that I still feel the same to this day. I would say I’m an adult with a spirit of a child. Spiritually I didn’t grow up because life as an adult can be so hard, so boring and stressful, I miss being a child because once everything was magical and beautiful, everything actually made sense. As you grow older that sparkle of imagination slowly begins to fade and disappear into the real world. It may sound bitter but it’s true. In everything I’ve created so far Sadness has played a huge role, because everything I did was related to me being sad. I was sad and I got inspired. Now I find real beauty in Sadness. The biggest inspiration for me happens to be sadness. Today I can proudly say that Sadness is my friend and not my enemy.

D.N.