LIKE A BOSS: 5 Ways to Unlearn Female Politeness & Fast-Track Your Career

Diana Adams
Apr 18, 2019 · 6 min read
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Like many women, I grew up learning to make other people happy, to avoid complaining or seeming emotional or needy. I was praised for the skills that would make me a good wife and mom — self-sacrificing and easy-going. I wasn’t taught how to deal with money or take charge.

As I founded my own law firm and became a business owner and supervisor, I realized that many of the ways I was socialized as a woman were holding me back. I wasn’t advocating for myself. I didn’t want to ask for too much or seem aggressive. I definitely avoided any conversation that involved disagreement or potential awkwardness.

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