Have you ever felt (not literally) the light going on in your mind? That “aha” moment when you realize…”yes that’s it!” For me, everything changed when one light went on. I recently discovered I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). This means you’re more sensitive to things around you and process them differently than most people. There’s about 20% of the population who are also highly sensitive and many don’t even know it. You might be a highly sensitive person if you…
- Feel anxious when you have too much to do and little time to do it.
- Need to withdraw from everything, and everyone, to get privacy or relief.
- Were told you’re “too sensitive” or “shy.”
- Cry easily.
Once I discovered that I’m a highly sensitive person, my thinking completely changed!
What Does it Mean to be a Highly Sensitive Person?
You’re unique and exactly what the world needs. As a highly sensitive person, everyday life can be very hard. Because you’re easily overstimulated, things can quickly become overwhelming. When you’re overwhelmed, you get more stressed. And then fear (a.k.a. ego) steps in! Fear is like a dark cloud that makes it difficult to see your “light going on” moments. Break up that cloud by asking for help, slowing down to listen, and being open to receive the help. That’s exactly what I did! Now those “aha” moments come to me all the time.
Choose to Embrace your Sensitive Super-Powers
Now that you know you’re a highly sensitive person, what happens next? Well…the first thing is to recognize that being sensitive is a GOOD thing. You have SUPER-POWERS that 80% of the world doesn’t! And you have the choice to embrace those super-powers and use them for good. OR ignore them and deny yourself the opportunity to make a difference for yourself and others. If you’re ready to embrace them, then start with these 7 steps.
Step 1. Make a Commitment to Yourself
Even though this may seem easy, it really isn’t. Just remember that anything worth having requires hard work. So make the commitment because if you don’t, you won’t succeed. Say this out loud…
“I’m committed to embracing my sensitive super-powers. I know it’ll require hard work and patience. But I’m determined to succeed.”
Keep saying this everyday (multiple times a day if necessary!) until it’s second nature to you.
Step 2. Find a Role Model (or Two)
Is there someone who inspires you? Do you have a favorite motivational speaker? Have you heard someone speak that made you feel like they were talking directly to you and you got really excited? If you can answer yes to any of these questions, you need to learn all you can about them. Have they written any books? Do they have a website, facebook page or group, or a YouTube channel? Use these to get the scoop on who they really are and what they can teach you. If you don’t have a role model, I encourage you to follow Gabby Bernstein, Marie Forleo, and Brené Brown. These are my go-to-ladies for motivation and inspiration.
Step 3. Establish a Meditation Practice
If you don’t meditate every day, you need to. It’s one of the EASIEST ways to slow down and just be. When you meditate, you give yourself an opportunity to quiet your mind. Once you get into the practice of meditating every day, things change. Each time you meditate, you’ll get to know yourself better. You’ll also gain confidence, feel more love, find support, and receive guidance. It only takes a few minutes each day. Guided meditation is a great place to start. And once you establish a practice, you’ll wish you had more time to meditate. Here’s one of my favorite self-love meditations!
Step 4. Write in a Journal Everyday
Get in the habit of writing down (not typing) your thoughts and feelings in a journal. This is a great way to release negative things and look at them from a different perspective. If you get triggered by something, writing it down each time helps establish a pattern of behavior. Then you can look at ways of breaking the pattern. Not sure what to write…start now with 3 things you’re grateful for and why. Other ideas include what you dream about, who’s pissed you off, what frustrates you the most, and the best thing that happened to you today.
Step 5. Find Your Tribe
Change is hard enough, there’s no need to do it alone. Find your tribe. That group of like-minded people who understand what you’re going through. Meeting in person is the preference but that’s not always easy. Meetup is a great way to find groups that meet on a regular basis in your area. If you’re on Facebook, use keywords to search for a group and observe a couple of them for a week or two. One of my favorite Facebook Groups is Highly Sensitive Refuge. It’s a great community with lots of encouragement and perspective about the challenges that highly sensitive people face every day. If you aren’t a member of that group, do so ASAP!!
Step 6. Express Gratitude
Gratitude for what you have has the power to make you feel joy every day! Without gratitude, you’ll find yourself lacking excitement or energy to get through the day. When you establish a daily practice of being grateful for what you have, you’ll feel better (physically and mentally), build meaningful relationships, and feel more joy. Practice gratitude and you’ll start to change how you think and feel. You’ll smile more, hold your head higher, feel more confident, and have an overall sense of peace.
Step 7. Ask for Help
If you’re like me, one of the toughest things to do is ask for help. Wanting to do everything yourself is perfectionism. Instead of asking for help you might say ”I can get it done faster” or “It’ll take you too long to learn how.” But what’s really happening is you’re taking control and denying another person an opportunity to learn and grow. It’s actually better to ask for help so you can free up your time for more important things. Like Meditating and Journaling. These will help you find guidance and figure out solutions.
You Can Make a Difference
Believe it, have faith, and take action. While these steps may appear simple, the reality is they aren’t easy. Nothing in life worth having is easy. If you feel stuck and unable to move forward, you’re not alone. You have a choice to either stay where you are or become who you’re meant to be. It’s up to you. In her book, Everything is Figureoutable, Marie Forleo says
“There are two kinds of people in the world: those with reasons and those with results.”
Which one are you?
Check out my website for more ideas and resources so you can embrace your sensitive super-powers.