The One that will save you
Or a deeply engraved myth needing unravelling
It sounds like such a nice idea, doesn’t it?
The one that will make you whole?
The one that complements and heals you?
Just about every romantic story is based on that premise.
Don’t get me wrong! I love love!!
I love to love and I love making love.
Let’s face it: good sex? Still the best free thing on this planet!
But besides the romance and the bunny movements,
there is real life
there is you
and another person
both with their own personality, hopes, dreams and pains.
Now, if you are dealing with two adults,
that is fine,
each mostly takes care for him/herself
the other may comfort and love
but that’s it.
There is no healing another.
Nor may it be expected from another.
The other is not your problem to fix.
Neither is he/she there to fill your void.
Yet still, it is what most of us do, don’t we?
Search for the one that makes us less lonely?
Makes us feel loved?
Now, of course, nothing is black and white.
And the love of another most certainly can have a healing effect.
But it is never the solution.
It should also not be the goal.
Loving you do for love.
And your shit?
That’s yours to handle.
And your therapist.
But above all
It is You who needs to love You
Not just the shine bits
but also
and especially
the dark and dirty.
May you find your love.
Love ;-)
