It should not be all one or the other. There is nothing wrong with a woman that WANTS to stay at home and raise kids. She should be supported — and other, more progressive and equal societies do that. However, women should not be penalized for doing both, especially when there are fewer and fewer jobs around for men that possibly support a stay at home mom and kids.
Feminism should is about choice. Not imposing one or another “solution” on women or men.