Everything You Need To Know About Confidence.
All you need are these tips to become confident.
Confidence is KEY!
Having confidence is probably the best feature anyone can have about themselves. You might disagree but it’s true, when you're confident, you have the ability to approach anyone you want, achieve your dreams without the fear of failure, do things you never thought you could, do things without feeling embarrassed, confidence can literally change your life for the better. Having confidence stops you from second-guessing, and it stops you from overthinking. Confidence is such an important feature you need in order to live a good life.
You might be the type of person who’s only confident in certain things like for example maybe you're confident in your abilities at playing sports, but you're not confident in approaching other people. We all have certain things we’re confident about and other things we’re not, but what I’m going to teach you is EVERYTHING you need to know about being confident at not just certain things, but mostly everything.
1: Change how you think.
Confidence is a mind game, you’ve got to think in the right way in order to get the outcome you want. If you think negatively about something, then the reality will be negative, but if you think positively about something, then the reality will be positive. If you want to be confident, you can’t second-guess. Like if you're about to approach someone, don’t start saying to yourself “Do I look good?” “Will they think I’m ugly?” “Oh my god I’m so scared” As soon as you start saying sh*t like that, you're not going to be as confident as you want to be.
You can’t think of the negatives that might happen if you're about to do something, you need to think of the positives. What if you approached that person and you got their number? What if that person loved your personality? What if that person thinks you're funny? You need to change the way you think about certain scenarios to actually have a decent outcome.
2: It’s alright if you f*ck up.
So if you imagine yourself approaching someone and the outcome is different from what you thought in your mind so like maybe they rejected you then that’s fine. The fact that you actually had the courage to go up to them is enough for you to be confident. 90% of guys or girls watch their chances go by but you took yours. So if something doesn’t go how you imagined just know that you tried, and you should definitely not let that defeat your confidence.
Not everything will always go how you imagined and you need to understand that. You need to understand that things won’t always go your way, even if you imagined it going well then it didn’t, you still shouldn’t let it bring your confidence down. That’s how people fail to maintain their confidence, they fail to keep it up just because of one f*ck up. The true confident people don’t even think about their f*ck ups, they go on with their day and when they see another opportunity they take that.
3: Personality is KEY!
Confidence isn’t just about how you look, your personality plays a huge part in it. Nobody would date a guy or girl who’s sexy as f*ck but they have a sh*t personality, and if they do end up dating people like that, then the relationship won’t last. To have a good personality, you need to have confidence, would someone date a quiet guy or girl who gets shy every time some talks to them? exactly they wouldn’t, so you need to embrace your personality and be confident in it. Don’t fear people will find you weird, don’t fear how you act will make people disgusted, you need to act how you want to act and to act in a way that makes you feel comfortable.
Nobody is comfortable acting like someone else, so when you act like yourself it’s so much easier to embrace yourself, it’s so much easier to talk about things, and overall you will just feel better. Some people might not like your personality, but who gives a sh*t? Not everyone will think the same way about the same person, some might like it some might hate it but what matters is that you're acting in a way that makes you feel comfortable and some will like that.
4: There is no time to focus on negativity!!
What you need to know is that we honestly just don’t have time to dwell on anything. We have no time on earth whatsoever to be introverted, to be quiet, and to be lonely. You need to live a good life, and to do that is to just gain some confidence. Do you really want to be quiet and miserable your whole life, exactly you don’t, you’ve got so many years to live why not make them the best years of your life?
F*ck what anyone thinks you need to get up and become the best version of yourself. Life seems long but it’s so short, you might die tomorrow without even knowing because life is unpredictable. So make your life worth living and go and do something that will make you proud of yourself. Go and get some confidence and never let go of it. Don’t let anything take you down, don’t let anything break you, only accept the positives, only accept what’s right for you, and only accept what makes you happy.
Outro!
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