Redefining “girly”

Divya Menon
Jul 30, 2017 · 2 min read

The term “girly” is usually related to dresses, makeup, overdone hairstyles, and beauty. It’s never linked to empowerment, compassion, or bravery. The counterpart “Manly” means strong, powerful, and smart. The phrase “Man up,” is often equated to becoming brave.

Since when does being a girl mean lack of strength and bravery? When it comes to clothing, styles are an expression of one’s personality. Picture someone who chooses to wear a pink dress, a lace top, or a white skirt, and wears makeup; often, she is considered girly. But, this label goes beyond an outfit. The choices a female makes in regards to her style define her personality. Take a look at the following:

Athletic: proud, picky, pushy

Emo: depressed, dark, dramatic

Tomboy: lesbian, low standards, lazy

Proper: introvert, insecure, isolated

Stretchy/tight: easily persuaded, easy targets…easy

While there surely are positive attributes that come to mind in relation to certain outfits, generally the labels are negative. From the perspective of the media and the double standards that society has set, we are put into boxes where we don’t belong. We don’t have a say in how people see us because we are just victims of labeling. But we don’t have to let this feed our insecurity. We can just focus on ourselves as individuals. Let’s not listen to society’s misogynistic views. Don’t label girls like society does. Remember that a nerd can dance, a rebel has feelings, and a proper girl can be outgoing. We should compliment one another for our character.

What’s more, the need for labels is also fueled by males who are carried away with what they feel is the norm. So, this message goes out to guys too. Don’t judge girls based on what they are wearing. Next time you see a girl in dark clothing, don’t jump to the conclusion that she’s depressed and forever lonely. Give her the benefit of the doubt and greet her with a smile.

It’s time to redefine girly by making it positive and true to us. Feminine and girly can mean being strong, brave, empowering, and compassionate. Let’s show the world that we are much more than beautiful. Wear what you choose and choose what you wear.

Express yourself and people will soon realize that “what’s essential is invisible to the eye.”-Antoine De Saint Exupéry

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