Isn’t saying someone is suffering PTSD, defining their experience?

No it doesn’t. PTSD is a professional diagnosis of someone’s psychological and emotional state (that is often manifesting itself physically). Telling someone “you didn’t experience racism” is defining what someone else went through by telling them their experience didn’t meet YOUR PERSONAL experience and definition of racism. That is controlling, dismissive, and belittling. It is telling someone when to speak up, how to feel, and how to react.

We see this at play today. White people get to define racism (which usually only includes racial slurs; anything else is dismissed); and any claim by a minority group that does not meet that definition goes ignored or mocked with phrases like “race baiting” and “playing the race card.” It is a power play to shame and mock the offended minority group into silence. It feeds into division as resentment grows among the minority group. So as a black woman, my experiences with racism must be verified by white people in order to be heard, valued, and taken seriously? NOT TRUE. We also see this same dynamic at play when it comes to sexism, harassment, and even abuse.

This is how microagressions go under the radar.

Gina is a therapist and should know the basics of discussing and/or mediating topics like this. Saying “I hear what you went through, and you have every right to feel how you feel….however I have a different opinion on how and why the events occurred” is how it’s done. Not flat out saying what didn’t happen as if she’s trying to gaslight the woman.

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